Problems Getting Pregnant?

I am trying to get pregnant and having a really hard time. I do not have a menstrual cycle like a normal woman. Looking for people out there that have gotten pregnant after having the same issues as me. Please any help would be appreciative... I have tried to get pregnant over 10 years.



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July 18, 20070 found this helpful

Leslie, when you say that you do not have a menstrual cycle like a normal woman are you stating that you do not have a cycle at all, or that you have a cycle but not every 28 days?

My menstrual cycles were always irregular, from the time I was 12 years old until I was 35 years old. I never realized that I had something wrong with my iron level. After being a blood donor at a local blood drive I became weak and very tired, I went to the doctor and had my blood tested and found out that I suffered from anemia.


I was told to take iron supplements and within a very short time I started to have regular, monthly cycles. It has been 10 years now, and I am still having normal, monthly cycles. I am not sure that this could be your problem, but it may be something worth checking into. Unfortunately, I had three pregnancies that didn't carry to full term and I always have wondered if I had taken iron supplements earlier in my life if it would have made a difference.

Good luck to you!

July 18, 20070 found this helpful

I had interesting problems myself until I started taking quite a bit of vitamin E....Four kids later...Vitamin E is very good for reproductive issues. Also, rather than going the traditional "drug 'em to death" doctor route, try seeing a naturopathic physician.


Fluoride or other toxins may be causing your problems, and a good detox may clear it up. Best of luck to you!

July 18, 20070 found this helpful

Sorry--I forgot to mention maybe the most important part--watchout for anything that could be tinkering with your hormones. For instance--soy, beef laden with growth hormones, previous birth control like depoprovera (bad, bad, nasty stuff!!), and the one that recently kicked my butt...non organic milk. When I drink milk from a normal dairy which must use hormones, my estrogen goes insane, and my periods stop and I gain weight. I love milk, but now I get the organic kind--


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July 18, 20070 found this helpful

You don't mention if you've seen a doctor?
Polycystic Ovarian Disease can cause irregular menstrual cycle & difficulty getting pregnant. Some of the other symptoms can be excessive hair on face, arms, etc., weight gain, trouble losing weight, etc. You can 'google' it to find out more.


It can be treated so you can get pregnant if it turns out to be that.

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July 19, 20070 found this helpful

Oops! I mean Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS)

By Vivian (Guest Post)
July 23, 20070 found this helpful

I had the same problem, but after I started taking vitamins and cut out my caffeine, I got pregnant....that and a whole lot of prayer!!!

Good luck!

July 23, 20070 found this helpful

First thing to do is see a doctor yourself, and then Have your husbands sperm count checked. If zero or very low sperm count, that would be the problem.
If your husband is a truck driver and sits all day or he takes hot baths, either of those situations can kill the sperm. Sperm need a cooler enviorment than the body temp, that is why the testicles are outside the body.


You can try taking a cough syrup twice a day. Read this article to explain why

July 23, 20070 found this helpful

Leslie, I have five children with the youngest one having just turned three and the oldest is almost 19. I never had a problem getting pregnant until we tried for the now-3 year old. My cycle was always very irregular (from the beginning) and changed the older I have become. My doctor prescribed a drug called Clomid to aid in regulating my cycle. A course of the drug is three pills, one per day, at a certain time of your cycle...One course and I was pregnant on the next cycle. Some women do not ovulate at the time we have been taught to think as 'normal'. A good doctor will begin at the least invasive point (sperm count and viability tests) and progress from there.


No two women can ever undergo the same treatments and expect the same results. I believe in a heal-thy-self attitude when it is done with caution and care. Your health and that of your future children is not something you want to just "wing it" with. Do your research and really TALK to your doctor. I learned that every single pregnancy is different because I am a different me as I age. Best of luck....with lots of, what I and a circle of friends call, "Baby Dust". God Bless!


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July 23, 20070 found this helpful

every one in my family swears by roast beef & mashed potatoes.Eat a LOT of it regurally !
(this may be a joke they like to tell me, but hey - whatever works- right!?!)
& a lot of people swear by their own moon cycles when that's not it -- try doing the "werewolf thing" & be 18 again (yeah) & do it in the car by the light of the moon out by the lake sometime !
I KNOW that sounds WAY WAY out in left field but,again - hey- whatever works !

By Michie (Guest Post)
July 23, 20070 found this helpful

I had problems until I had a DNC , I was pregnant my next cycle. My sister also tried for years until she had her tubes blown out and then she got pregnant right away as well . Good luck!

By Misty (Guest Post)
July 23, 20070 found this helpful

I'm 38 and just got diagnosed with PCOS (as a previous poster talked about). I too haven't had a child either. I do not have the hair growth, but I have the weight gain, brown spots under arms, skin tags (the little flaps of skin usually in warm areas - on me it's in my arm pits), and I have excessive bleeding (and anemia) - but some have irregular periods like you are talking about while others bleed too much.

I thought I didn't have it either when told about it, but I had a sonogram done and I did have it. The reason it was hard to diagnose was because I do not have the extra hair growth.

10 years is a long time honey! You need to go get checked. I hear Clomid is good (as a previous poster said). But if you have PCOS, the doctor can prescribe Glucophage for you and it will help with everything and hopefully get you pregnant too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I've only been on the medication for 3 weeks now after 19 years of not ever getting pregnant. (I'm 38 and in Ohio too - Akron/Canton area).

Good luck to you. You will need it because many doctors don't know much about PCOS and they don't diagnose it correctly (which is the problem I had for so many years). If you have a good doctor, ask him/her to check for it. I had a vaginal ultrasound done and could see the cysts in my ovaries. I think you can have a blood test too??? I would go for the ultrasound and watch the screen. My techinician showed me the cysts and said that's what PCOS looks like in the ovaries (she was really good to me to let me watch and explain stuff to me).

Go get checked... and good luck!
39 yrs old in Ohio
PCOS and anemia

check out or Google "symptoms of PCOS" and you'll find lots of information. I just don't want you to wait as long as I did... I may not ever get to have kids! (and there is a chance of cancer if undiagnosed) My tests showed I do not have cancer. TG!
You could have some other medical problem if you do not have the symptoms listed above. Go to the doctors. It will be worth the money and time.

July 23, 20070 found this helpful

First works...then get a really good reproductive endocrinologist. Do you know why you're not getting pregnant? Treat the symptoms. If you are overweight lose weight. Someone mentioned PCOS. That's a common reason. Age could be another consideration.
My sister in law tried for 10 years. My husband and I prayed with her, she was with child 4 mos later. Pray the novena to St. Gerard. Make a pilgrimage to Franciscan University of Steubenville. Have a priest there pray for you.
God Bless,

July 23, 20070 found this helpful

The other responses cover a lot of good ground. Without knowing more about your situation, I'm just going to throw some options out there for you to consider:

Acupuncture has been proven to aid fertility. Try to find a practitioner who handles a lot of fertility patients. Also, Chinese medicine may help.

Read Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler. This is the bible of infertility for many women.

Revamp your diet. Cut out refined grains and sugar. Drink a couple of shots of wheatgrass every day. Reduce or better yet eliminate red meat. Eat lots of fruit and veggies. And this works better if you also get moderate exercise frequently.

Good luck!


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July 24, 20070 found this helpful

You do need to have you and your spouse tested to be sure the basics are working.

Then, recall that strenous intercouse can stimulate ovulation at any time in your period, so really go for it when you do.

July 24, 20070 found this helpful

a very good way for checking fertility and also to work in reverse to prevent pregnancy is to check the cervical mucus , it isnt failsafe as a preventor but did help me when i decided i wanted children.

its a bit gross so cover your eyes everyone lol

you basically insert a finger into the vagina to check the fluid each day

when it is the colour of egg white in the first approx 10 days of the cycle it is hostile mucus through which no sperm can swim or survive, it is a white colour.

as you approach your most fertile days it goes as clear as tap water, see through, and also becomes stretchy and slippery and not so thick, it may even stretch out like a washing line with small "beads" forming on it. this is when you are at your most fertile and the sperm can literally swim through this type of mucus like a river.

a few days after ovulation the mucus starts to cloud up again

sorry if this sounds gross but it really helped me to become pregnant when all else had failed



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July 24, 20070 found this helpful

Also, if you don't have a regular cycle, is it because of a thyroid problem? I had this problem for years before a doctor properly diagnosed it. I could go months without it.

July 24, 20070 found this helpful

Leslie, absolutely get yourself to a Reproductive Endocrinologist. They are the hard-core "fertility doctors" and although they can do the high level stuff, they don't necessarily start out there. A good one will start with the lowest level treatment s/he thinks will help. You'll get all the evaluations you neeed to find out what the problem really is. It won't be cheap, but some medical insurances cover diagnosis even if they won't cover the actual treatment. Some insurances even cover treatment.

My second suggestion is almost as important. Go to . Look around the bulletin boards there and you will certainly find a board for gals asking the same questions and with the same symptoms. That site was a sanity-saver for me some years ago and now I post on the parenting section there. Please take a look.

By mawmawto4 (Guest Post)
July 27, 20070 found this helpful

My daughter had trouble getting pregnant with her first child & she had to have a test where they (outpatient procedure) clear the fallopian tubes so to speak. I think they shoot dye through them to see if there are any blockages. Anyway, she got pregnant within 2 months & had three children in 2 and a half years. She is a school teacher & she had always wanted to have children. They are real blessings. She also has a friend who had went to her same family doctor for years & never got pregnant. She went to a doctor (specialist) referred by by daughter's OB & she had a child within one year. So, if you don't get answers get a different doctor ASAP!

By Jean in GA (Guest Post)
July 30, 20070 found this helpful

Hi, I had POCOs. 22 years ago, I went to a specialist in Atlanta, GA. He has since moved his office to Chicago, but he ran all kinds of tests on me, finaly, after a wedge section operation, I got pregnant. All the tests back then were very expensive, but well worth it. Check into the wedge section operation. We'll pray for you.

By Cathy from Townsville, QLD (Guest Post)
October 1, 20070 found this helpful

It is recommended that if you haven't seen a doctor within 1 year of trying, then get to a one ASAP! 10 years is far too long to wait. The longer you leave it, the harder it will be, and please don't leave it until you are too old! Make an appointment to see one ASAP. It could be a simple problem, or at least he (or she) can do tests to tell you what the problem is. Some problems take years to resolve before a pregnancy 'sticks', so go as soon as you can before it's too late. Good luck.

By Candace (Guest Post)
October 3, 20070 found this helpful

I am 23 years old and I have two children 2 and 18 months. We wanted our children all to be close in age so we started trying when my last baby was 6 months. I have irregular periods that range to being 3 to 14 days late and sometime are even a day or two early. I obviously haven't become pregnant yet and wondering why this is. I have heard about clomid a lot and was wondering if I should talk to my doctor about it. I just don't understand why all of the sudden its hard to conceive after 2 children. What should I do?

By Aashayla (Guest Post)
July 8, 20080 found this helpful

My name is Aashayla I'm 25 years old and me and my husband has been trying to have our first child. We have been trying for 5 months we have been to an doctor and both of us are very healthy but I just can't seem to get pregnant. What should I do?

By emiliarabi (Guest Post)
January 19, 20090 found this helpful

Hi, I`m 37 years old and my husband is 50, I had a miscarriage 2 years ago. Since then we've been trying and nothing happen. We've been to several doctors and they all said we are normal just keep trying. At the same time I've got painful regular periods and sometimes heavy ones so my husband reckoned that I might be miscarrying and I don't know.
Please help.

January 26, 20090 found this helpful

I'm 31 & my husband is 46. So we both got checked out. Him being an older age we were concerned with sperm count, A-ok in that area. And i got checked out to make sure all was well. I have cycles that range from 35-45 days. No PCOS or thyroid issues. I did use the Fertility awareness method where i check my basal temp first thing upon waking, check cervical fluid daily and cervical position. The charting works great and is very educational (for you and your doc) but I think mother nature is the best way. We had sex for several days in a row (I mean during the fertile time according to the FAM method and when i was real responsive, so about 11 days straight). We just had tons of sex once we ruled everything out. That worked for us!


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