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Recently I asked someone if I was being a 'bitch'. The person I asked the question of drew my attention to the word I used. I was quite embarrassed; it made me stop and think and I know that I won't be using that word again. In my defense, such that it is and it's no good excuse I know, the word slipped out of my mouth without thinking and I didn't even consider that I was using a harsh or vulgar one. But it is a bad word and words like these, and worse ones, have become so common in today's everyday language that it doesn't carry the weight that it did 20 or 30 years ago. We've become desensitized. I'm as guilty as the next person dammit ... see what I mean.
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Heck, I remember my Dad slapping my mouth when I was about 12 years old and didn't want to go to school one day so I fibbed and said that I had a stomach ache and felt 'crappy'. That was a very vulgar word back in the day and unacceptable, especially from a child. Today we hear it all the time from youngsters through to adults, 'it's raining and it's crappy out'. But it's acceptable by modern day language standard.

On YouTube there's a 9 minute clip by George Carlin called The 7 Dirty Words. I've personally never liked George Carlin because of his raunchy way of talking and regular use of harsh / vulgar words, but this clip is perhaps worth watching, if for no other reason than to watch the audience reaction to his presentation. He identified 7 words that are used so much in everyday language today that they are 'almost acceptable'. The audience he presented to thought his presentation was hilarious. Speaking for myself, I didn't laugh. Call me old fashioned, but it made me stop and think.

My thought is that religion and sexuality aren't taken seriously anymore by many people so it doesn't matter if blasphemy and profanity are used on an everyday basis. Words that were sacred words aren't reserved for the church only anymore. Coarse words that describe bodily discharge (and you know the ones) have lost their sting. As have words that describe various body parts.

A lot of today's standard focuses on a new set of taboo words. Racist, sexist and fatist words and terms that insult gender, sexual orientation, the way a person looks or their ethnic identity are far more taboo than they used to be. People in general used the word 'retarded' regularly a number of years ago; children in the playground called their friends that all the time and it was acceptable because it was said in jest. Not so today.

Yet, f**k is ok today and it's heard everywhere you go by men, women and young adults alike. The old taboo words and thinking that went along with it have been replaced with new ones. I hope that I don't live long enough to ever hear a sweet 5 year old ask his mother for a 'G*dd*m' sandwich and society thinks it's perfectly fine for him to talk that way.

In the digital world that includes the use of texting and acronyms, swear words are used without being face to face and because they're not being said out loud, it seems that they're alright to express. I've seen some of them, like 'lmfao' used regularly and without apparent second thought to what is actually being said. It is not a good term, said verbally or otherwise. I don't send or receive text much, am not familiar with the new acronym language and don't care to learn it. The younger generations thinks that I'm old fashioned. Oh well.

It's a new age that we're in, one that is scientifically and technically advanced from 50 years ago. We've been to the moon and back. But, can we really claim to be advanced when our social standards that includes speech pattern and vocabulary have evolved to where everyday self respect has eroded to a crude level? I'm not so sure.

And we, as the so called 'old generation', through example we should try to keep our young generation, our future, from becoming people we don't like much and who won't even like themselves.

Something to think about.

Source: My thoughts only

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September 28, 20182 found this helpful

I got in trouble just saying, "I swonnie" in the 1950's. I do not like the bad language of today and when I hear it on TV, I turn the station. Usually it's in a movie. They need to clean up the movies and such that are brain washing people today.

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September 28, 20180 found this helpful

I've never heard that expression and just looked it up on the internet. I suppose every area has it's own words and expressions, be they good or bad, and the key is know what is acceptable and what isn't.

I agree that there's much 'garbage mouth' on the tv as well as violence, so I chose not to watch it often. And, it's not getting any better. I much prefer my "old fashioned" classics and musicals from my home collection.

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September 30, 20182 found this helpful

This article is so good.
Makes a person stop and think.
We as a society have moved away from respectful speech.

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Thank you so much for sharing this.

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September 30, 20181 found this helpful

I haven't heard that expression since the 1950s. I seldom used it myself but often heard my mother's generation use that term. Thanks for the trip down memory lane. I love your article I totally agree with everything you said. I am just sick to hear my grandchildren speak and text in the way you described. I am at a loss as to what to do, other than try to set a good example myself. My personal pet peeve is the lack of respect people show to one another. The lack of respect shown within the family between Generations is really sickening.

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October 2, 20180 found this helpful

I know how you feel, LG. I thought Slingblade was a very good movie except that it was ruined with one word, the filthiest word in all languages.

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I have never spoken it, and if I do, those around me will know I need to be institutionalized. And I'm no prude.

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September 30, 20180 found this helpful

This is an insightful article.
Very thought provocal indeed.
Thank you so much for sharing this.

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September 30, 20180 found this helpful

Nice article . Times sure have changed.

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September 30, 20181 found this helpful

I completely agree with you! I feel like a fossil sometimes, since crude language of all kinds is considered the "norm" these days. I do forbid bad language in my home , but it seems like a feeble effort considering that my children and granddaughter hear all kinds of shocking (to me) language everywhere they go.

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Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings about this...you are not alone!

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October 1, 20180 found this helpful

i remember the day it started for me. I was in a meeting in 1973, trying to describe, as delicately as possible, something that had been circulating in the school. i young woman looked at me and in a matter of fact voice and demeanor said, "you mean they were f****ing. And it has been all downhill from there.

i have seen movies where every other sentence has that word. I think, don't they have a vocabulary? Do they know no other word to use? So I don't watch a lot of movies, because between the language and the violence, it makes me sick.

Unfortunately, for the older generation, we might as well get used to it because it's not going to change.

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October 1, 20180 found this helpful

My thinking is that nothing changes in life until you do something to make it happen. It's not enough to "just get used to it" and hold onto the belief that "it's not going to change". That's giving in way too easy in my books. It's no more than negative acceptance.

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So, one day at a time, one incident at a time, one person at a time, we can voice our displeasure and non acceptance of profanity as we come across it in our daily lives. I'm trying to do my part and even if I only reach one person's attention today and through gentle reproach and example, that person loses the garbage mouth, today I've achieved what I set out to do. Tomorrow I'll pick up where I left off today.

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October 2, 20180 found this helpful

It is ironic that this has come up today. My husband and I were talking about how "Naughty" words and commercials with woman in their bras is the social norm . Growing up we got our mouth washed out with soap if we said golly or damn . Words used today make me blush with embarrassment when I hear them. My sons who are now adults say ma you need to come to this generation. I don't think so. I would rather live like I do than to change my morals to accept this kind of living. Call me old fashion I really don't mind in fact, I will take that compliment. I am not judging I am just saying back in the day people respected one another and people cared about how they made others feel. I am not perfect far far from it. I just wish there was more kindness and caring in this world. On that note, may you all have a great day and GOD BLESS YOU ALL .. ( I know that is not politically correct but that is another subject. I believe in GOD so I want him to bless us all )

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October 4, 20180 found this helpful

I am saddened by people who use OMG. It is not allowed in our house, even though we are not avid church goers. The kids have slipped a bit because that is all they hear at school but I just have to look at them and they have a sorry look on their face. There are so many other words to use to express your excitement, or shock!!

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