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If you have a child who soaks the bed in the night, just put a rubber sheet on to protect the mattress. Then add another sheet and then another rubber sheet, and finally another sheet on top of that. That way if the child wets the bed, all you have to do is tear the top sheets off and clean it in the morning. You are not making the bed at 2:00 AM.

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My 27 month old boy stopped wetting the bed when he turned 24 months, but all of a sudden he started peeing on himself during the day and wetting the bed. What might be the problem?


October 12, 20170 found this helpful
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Baby potty training.

Step 1
I would switch to pull ups.


Step 2
Do not give up, reward him with a special treat when he uses the potty.Also if he is dry in the morning.

Step 3
Praise him up when he goes in the potty and when he is dry in the morning.

Step 4
Tell him he will get a treat only if he pees in the pot.

Step 5
You have to make him interested in the training process again.

Step 6
I always started at 2 every child is different.

Step 7
My son was 4 before he stopped having accidents.

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My son is now 7 and we are having a hard time with the bed wetting. I will take his drinks away at 6 PM and wake him up to let him go to the restroom but he still happens wets his bed. He has been prescribed medicine and it isn't working either. I am just tired of doing laundry every morning before I go to work, and it is bothering his mental well being as well. Please help!


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By nanny (Guest Post)
April 4, 20060 found this helpful

your son will more than likely grow out of this. for the meantime get him some goodnites. (pullup diapers for big kids). let him take care of using them and throwing them away in the morning himself. do not belittle him he feels bad enough already.

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February 5, 2006

My son is about to be 7 and has wet the bed on average of about 3 times a week all of his life. We have tried EVERYTHING. The only thing we haven't yet tried is prescription meds. That would be my last resort. I don't know anything about them and was wondering if any parents here have any experience with them?


Jo Smith from Jackson, TN


February 5, 20060 found this helpful

Oh goodness... one of my older sons went thru this til he was around that age. The doctor told me it was worse because he is a boy. For some reason boys are more apt to do this til older. Anyhow, we finally figured out if we stopped all liquids at 6 in the evening, and would make him go to the bathroom several times before bedtime, it would work. Now it took us a couple of months to get it down pat, but it worked. Only every once in a while after that would he wet the bed. But I was finally able to remove the padding... that washing it constantly was so tiring!
Let me know if this helps.
I was like you and would do anything but medication, especially when the doctors couldnt find nothing medically wrong.



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February 5, 20060 found this helpful

My younger brother wet his bed all the way through high school. It affected his self esteem and he never, ever had sleep overs like other kids. His problem was that he was such a sound sleeper he just never woke up. My mom used to get him up every night and had to walk him to the bathroom and tell him to do his business; he never actually was awake for the whole process and one time peed on the wall while my mother stood there yelling at him to stop. Now that he is an adult (he no longer bed-wets) he sleepwalks and has been caught by his wife going to the bathroom off the back porch, and once in their closet! I think doctors tell parents that their children will grow out of it, but a lot of them just do not. I have seen commercials on television for undergarments for children, so you are definately not alone in your problem!! Good luck to you and your son, I hope you find something that works for the both of you.

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By Sharon (Guest Post)
February 5, 20060 found this helpful

Hi, My daughter wet the bed when she was small and of course couldn't have friends over or go to their house. This happened with my husband when he was small and also one of my brothers. We didn't want her to go through what they did so we purchase a Bed wetting alarm. The one we had was wonderful. I believe it was called the "Wee Alert". Anwyay the way it worked was a mesh wire (which looked like a window screen) the size of a pillowcase was attached to a battery and slid into a pillowcase (for comfort). The alarm was turned on and at the first drop of moisture to hit the screen made an alarm go off. Your job at that time is to get up and get your child up and they MUST turn off the alarm themselves, go straight to the bathroom and wash their face with a cool cloth to get woke completely up and then go to the restroom.


Once done they have to change out the pillowcase themselves and reset the alarm. At first this goes on several times a night. But, within 2 months she was no longer a bedwetter. It was well worth the money spent on it. I gave you the details because I know there are several on the market and I know this kind worked. Good luck if you try this route. Her problem was not medical it is just some children sleep such a deep sleep they can't train themselves to wake up. This item took care of that problem. Hope this is of help. Sharon

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By jill (Guest Post)
February 7, 20060 found this helpful

I experienced this with both of my daughters. First of all, make sure your little boy knows he is not the only one, and buy him the "good nights" NOW. No one needs to be dealing with a wet bed, not you and not him. They work like underwear and don't show under jammies. (My kids even took them to sleep overs and to camp! We devised several methods for being discreet about them, and I don't think their friends ever knew! I also did NOT tell the people at camp; I felt like it was something the girls managaged on their own, so why bring anyone else into it?)

We tried several medications, with no success. We also tried waiting it out, as we'd been told puberty would take care of it. Well, number one hit puberty and still was not dry.

What finally worked for us was the kind of alarm that goes inside the underpants (or Good Nights) and the little "box" part pins to the jammies.

My younger daughter decided to try it first, and was dry in about a week. The older one took about a month, but her problem was more severe. But it did work and was worth every penny.

I did not get up with them with the alarm. Since they had the Good Nights on, I didn't feel the need. It might have taken a bit longer the first few times; but they managed without a problem. My reasoning for not getting up with them was primarily that I wanted them to understand that I knew the problem was "medical" and not behavioral; and that I trusted them to learn this new way to deal with it as I had always trusted them to deal with it.

By the way, number 1 had never, ever been dry through the night; but number 2 had been, and then began to wet again--which is not uncommon; nor is it behavioral. They can't help it.

My view was that it was like any ongoing medical problem--except that ours would eventually get better! So I saw that part as a true blessing!

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By annette (Guest Post)
February 7, 20060 found this helpful

Hallo. have you had your son checked out by a chiropractor?
joints that are not properly aligned can put pressure on the muscles in groin area. I find it hard to explain as I am not a chiropractor, but I seen amazing results with my own kids.
and much better than medication, good luck

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By Carol (Guest Post)
February 7, 20060 found this helpful

I would definitely take him to the pediatric urologist as another person has suggested.. And follow through with that doctor's advice... Also, I'd ask that doctor if he/she thought it might be emotional or not. I think sometimes kids that have a lot of stress in their lives have such problems.. If it were my child, I'd definitely want to get to the root of it. Best of luck

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February 7, 20060 found this helpful

We used an alarm on one of our 3 daughters (search thrifty fun under potty training for the full story of that). Anyway, we bought the cheapo alarm on ebay (you'll see them, they sell a ton). It's cheaply made but it worked & was only around $20. The more expensive alarms are around $100.

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February 7, 20060 found this helpful

Our daughter will be 8 in May and she sleeps in a pull-up....we do not make an issue of it and she doesn't seem bothered by it. Every now and then the pull up is dry but most mornings it is wet! She does fine in the daytime but was late to train. I haven't mentioned to the Dr yet as I really wasn't interested in medication or surgery. I'm sure she will grow out of it in time. Sure I'd like to quit buying the pull ups but better to spend the money on those than wash sheets and change bed daily!

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By sheri darling (Guest Post)
February 7, 20060 found this helpful

Wow, it really is a problem! I think it is an inherited problem. Four out of my husband's five kids had this problem. The pull ups work well, but you have to make sure they go right out in the trash. We have never found out what the cause of the problem is. It does help to restrict fluid intake after 6pm. But, the medications that are out now work very well, I totally empathize with anyone that has this problem! Please have patience and love! This too shall pass!

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February 7, 20060 found this helpful


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February 7, 20060 found this helpful

I know you won't believe this, but try a chiropractor! My son, now 17, wet the bed 3-5 times per night, every night, for years. His father & I were divorcing, he was 4-5, and I was ready to put him in counselling to help - I did not want him on medications! Our friend, a chiropractor, asked to see him when the topic came up over dinner one night.

My son was a forceps delivery - which may have pulled him out of alignment - anyway, I do not understand HOW, but after ONE ADJUSTMENT, my son went from 3-5 times soaking bed at night to 28 days without even one accident.

It's definitely worth a try before medicating the little darling!

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February 7, 20060 found this helpful

Hi Jo,
I have a teenage daughter on some heavy medication for other ailments that make her incontinent at night. She takes Desmopressin (which is generic for DDAVP and don't ask me what that stands for!) It is a mild diuretic and works like a charm.

However, I would recommend trying a homeopathic doctor for this problem. My daughter has had terrible nausea, and the homeopathic doctor gave her little pellets of hellebore to take and it's completely cured her. I'm going to have him prescribe something for the incontinence, too, and see what he comes up with.

Good luck!
Nancy from Pennsylvania

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September 4, 2006

My 10 year old daughter has wet the bed for years. Nothing is medically wrong. I have found this is common, so she wears Goodnights to bed, but in the AM she'll lay in bed, wide awake and wet her pull-up until it runs out onto the bed. I ask her "why", she says she doesn't know why. I have, in the past, been very patient and understanding, but today I lost it. I made her wear the nasty wet pull-up around the house for punishment. What is up with this? Is it a fetish? Is she mentally ill? I have lost my mind. I told her if she does it again she will have to wear it to school and I will tell all her friends. The parent in me knows this is not the right approach, but I am at the end of the road here. What else is there to try?

Nina from Las Vegas

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February 23, 2005

I have a son who just turned 5 year old who still wets the bed almost every night. We currently put him in Pull-ups, but he often makes so much pee that it even leaks out of the diaper onto his clothes, sheets, blanket, etc.

Does anyone have suggestions or advice on how to handle this? Do we just wait for him to hopefully grow out of it? We've been careful to give him lots of fluids during the day but not allowing him to drink anything for the last 2 hours before bedtime. He always goes to pee just before he hops into bed for the night. When we wake him up to use the toilet about 3 hours after bedtime, he's often already wet his diaper. I'm getting really tired of having to change his bedding every other night, those Pull-ups are expensive (even the generic brands), and our water bills are way high from all the laundry that results. Lynne

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April 1, 2011

My 10 year old daughter has wet the bed for years. Nothing is medically wrong. I have found this is common, so she wears Goodnights to bed, but in the AM she'll lay in bed, wide awake and wet her pull-up until it runs out onto the bed. I ask her "why", she says she doesn't know why. I have, in the past, been very patient and understanding, but today I lost it. I made her wear the nasty wet pull-up around the house for punishment. What is up with this? Is it a fetish? Is she mentally ill? I have lost my mind. I told her if she does it again she will have to wear it to school and I will tell all her friends. The parent in me knows this is not the right approach, but I am at the end of the road here. What else is there to try?

Nina from Las Vegas


10 Year Old Wets the Bed

You need to speak with her doctor right away! Sometimes it can be hard to get out of bed when you first wake up, and it may be that she doesn't "feel" it until it is too late. In any case, you should both get professional guidance from the pediatrician, who can refer you to a specialist to deal with this. And Mom, please refrain from ridicule, as this can make the problem much worse (hiding it, or she may rebel against you.) Do something before your relationship is damaged! If it doesn't feel right to treat her that way, then don't! (09/04/2006)

By Kelly

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

First, let me say, I agree with everything that Camo Angels said. However, I would suggest it's time for your 10 year old to learn to strip her bed and change the sheets herself. If it's just a bit of laziness or rebellion that keeps her in the bed instead of getting up to go to the bathroom after she's awake, then this may keep her from doing that. If it's not, then it's still a good thing for her to learn to change her own bed. I had 2 bedwetters and I found that hypnosis helped my son to quit at age 12. He slept so soundly that he just didn't wake up, even after wetting the bed. I agree, don't punish or humiliate. No one puts themselves through this on purpose. (09/05/2006)

By SL Edens

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

Has she seen a chiropractor? This helped our son tremendously. Also, is she simply afraid to get out of bed? There may be more going on in her life than what she is telling you. I was afraid to get out of bed until I was about 7 or 8 unless I could hear someone else moving around. (09/05/2006)

By Guest

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

My son was about 10 when he finally quit wetting the bed. I finally found a pediatrician to help. He had what is called a "potty pager". It hooked to his underwear and as soon as it got just a little wet it would sound off. It was very loud! He immediately got up and went to the bathroom. After less than a week he was going on his own. I would hear it, but I let him do it all. Then after about 2 weeks he didn't need it anymore because his brain was programed to get up and go to the bathroom. He too was sleeping through when he had to go. If your daughter is just lazy then this will get her going. Good luck! (09/07/2006)

By Brenda

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

You must be going through a lot right now. It's normal to be so frustrated about something like this. I'm sorry to hear that you "lost it" with her today, but I completely understand since I'm a mom too. Please don't give up. There is a solution out there somewhere.

Around the age of 8 I started having problems with "leaking" and not being able to control it. My parents took me to doctor after doctor for a couple of years who told them that it was all mental and that there was nothing physically wrong with me. I suffered humiliation at the hands of both my parents who believed the doctors and my siblings, who teased me about it.

I believed what they said too and it caused me years of pain and did significant damage to my self-image. As an adult, I finally got the courage to mention this problem to my gynecologist who ran some tests and found that my bladder was severely prolapsed. One quick surgery later and I no longer have the problem.

Please continue to seek solutions, both medically and psychologically for your daughter. (I like the ideas posted about the alarm and her having to change her own sheets.) I'm sure she wouldn't be doing this if there weren't a reason and you can help her to figure it out. Best wishes to you and your daughter. (09/07/2006)

By mommygett

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

I also deal with a daughter who wets. Luckily hers is stress induced so we watch that closly. Anyway one suggestion that hasn't been mentioned is has she been tested for ADHD? I know that wetting is one symptom that ADHD kids deal with. A friend's daughter wet not just the bed, but during school, etc. because she was too distracted by other things to get up and use the bathroom. Maybe this is a possibility, my friend said w/meds this stopped immediately, but returns if the meds need adjusted. She also didn't care and wore wet clothes. Yuck! (09/07/2006)

By Mary

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

Shaming her is not the answer. If she has been checked out by the doctor, use a behavioral program. Tell her she is responsible for her own situation. She will need to strip the bed, wash everything and re-make the bed if she wets. Set an alarm clock for her wake-up and insist that she go to the bathroom as soon as it rings, no lingering in bed. That is a privilege she will have to earn. Try not to get emotional when she wets, just re-state that she needs to clean up the mess, etc.

Try offering a reward for a set number of dry nites in a row, maybe using a sticker chart or calendar. Make the reward something she really wants, but doesn't break the bank, like a DVD rental, trip for ice cream, extra one on one time with mom or dad, etc. If she wets the bed, a mild consequence, stated in advance could be a slightly earlier bedtime that night since, "she seems to be too tired to get up to go to the bathroom", she obviously needs more rest. Make the punishment fit the misdeed, logical consequences. But I think giving her this responsibility for changing the bedding, washing the sheets, etc. may make the difference, especially if she gets little attention for it from you. Just restate her responsibility to deal with it from now on. (09/07/2006)

By Linda

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

An extreme, I use that word explicitly, an extreme reason for a child to wet the bed at a late age, is sexual abuse. This most likely is not the case, but it does happen. (09/07/2006)

By memere

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

Unless you have taken her to an urologist for a urethral dilatation exam in a hospital under anesthesia, (if surgery is required, it is done at that time, you cannot be certain that she doesn't have what I had at age 14, causing me to wet without fail. I had a non-malignant urethral tumor that had to be removed surgically.) Until discovered, my mom was as frantic and frustrated as you, but not nearly as terrified as I was of the spankings, false reasoning, yelling, loss of sleep, threats, and thoughts of the loss of my mother's love, blaming me for the whole thing.

She took me to many doctors and finally learned about it, but was given the choice of having the surgery in the office or hospital. Knowing it would be most painful, but she was so anxious to get it over with, she chose the office without anesthesia and worse yet, never apologizing for all she had put me through all those years.

It took me 49 years to truly forgive her, and it ruined my trust in humans, doctors (he should have insisted on my being admitted into the hospital for pain relief), and later on I still suffered post traumatic syndrome all through my life/marriage, and under certain conditions, to this day, crying at the most inappropriate times. It took counseling to finally help me to discover why/what/when/where/who, etc.

I urge you to please reconsider and make certain of the medical implications. Each of the "reasons" and "guesses" given in this blog was made about my situation. Also, if after this exam, you do "not" find a tumor (which held my ureter open abnormally causing the bladder to empty when I tried to sleep), please consider that there may still be a real medical explanation that has not yet been discovered or diagnosed by anyone other than a very good doctor.

How would you feel if it were you? No one has the slightest clue of how horrible it is to suffer in this way. Give your daughter more of the benefit of the doubt until you have truly exhausted all the possibilities. Then, if you were wrong, hug her in private and tell her simply how sorry you are for not knowing. God bless you both.

By lynda

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

Another reason for bed-wetting that no one has mentioned is allergies. Relief can be as simple as avoiding something such as a certain food. Have you considered talking to a good allergist? It may solve your problem. (09/08/2006)

By susan

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

I have 2 bedwetters a girl age 11 and a boy age 9. They wear Mother of Eden bedwetter pants. They fit well and keep the bed dry. I wet the bed until 14 and the products they have today are much better then the diapers and rubber pants I wore. (10/05/2006)

By Trish

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

I want everyone reading my comments to understand that these are just my thoughts
and observations and are not intended as criticisms directed at anyone.
If I were the young person wetting the bed I know my own personal pain and embarrassment would exceed any embarrassment or frustration or aggravation my mother would be feeling. I might try to hide that fact from her, but inwardly I believe I would be dying a little every day.

Can those of you who are dealing with this put it in perspective? You could be dealing with something so much worse. My next door neighbor has a beautiful 18 year old daughter. She was born with cerebral palsy, she functions as an 18 month old and requires constant care, which they lovingly provide. Another acquaintance has a child with cancer and her future looks grim.

I truly don't understand the constant fights over wet sheets and bedding. It is a fact, not a surprise, that you have a bedwetter. It is also a fact that dishes get dirty and have to be washed. It's also a fact that everyone needs clean clothes so the laundry must be done.

It seems obvious to me to just routinely provide the appropriate pants, whether disposable or washable, depending on finances and an appropriate waterproof pad and get on with life. There has to be a way that you don't have to daily strip the bed and wash everything. Stop the shaming and shouting and anger. The "special" sleep underwear is as necessary a part of the family expenditures as is the case of soft drinks, or beer, or carton of cigarettes, or gallons of milk. Provide these kids with the necessary clothing and stop the commentary. Allow them to reclaim their dignity. Provide the things they need and just wait it out, quietly! It will end when it ends, not when you demand it or when you've "had enough". Trust me, there are much more difficult things in life that many people deal with. This too shall pass. Don't handle it in a way that will cause you shame and regret in later years. (10/06/2006)

By Grandma Margie

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

Try having them go to the bathroom two times right before bed. Have them stop drinking liquids 2 hours before they go to bed. It works! You also might want to try using pull-ups Goodnights for older children. (12/08/2006)

By Lola

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

One trick that may help is that if you wake during the night to go to the bathroom (I know I still do at age 43) get her out of bed and make her go to the toilet. (02/14/2007)

By Linda

10 Year Old Wets the Bed

How distressing for you and your child. I have heard an old remedy is to give a teaspoon of honey to the child before bed, try it for a few weeks and see if it helps. I hope it helps and it won't hurt either way. Good luck. (03/14/2009)

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March 2, 2011

I have a son who just turned 5 year old who still wets the bed almost every night.

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