Dealing With and Abusive Spouse?

I have been with my husband for 16 years. During this time he has been verbally abusive to me and my daughter. He has also hit me several times, including today. We have custody of my daughter's oldest son and I am afraid he will grow up to be like him because he hears the things he has said to me.


I receive SSD so I don't have a lot of money coming in and since we did not adopt my grandson even though as far as he is concerned we are mom and dad I am not able to collect anything in my disability for him. I just don't know how I can get away from him before it is too late for me and my little one.

My husband has told me that he will hunt me down and kill me if necessary to get his "son" back. They have no blood ties. My daughter does not like him and I fear if I leave him he will go after her to get to me. She has said for me not to worry that she can take care of herself, but she has two small children at home and her husband works during the day.

I just wish there was a way to get out I have even considered moving overseas so he can't follow me, but, of course this would take a considerable amount of money which I do not have.


What can I do?


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December 2, 20130 found this helpful

Bless your heart! Call an abuse hotline and make arrangements to go to a women's and children's abuse center. They can help you get on your feet. You must take action. Do not tell him what you have in mind. Until then, call the police and have him arrested for hitting you. Abusers are controllers. Stand up and take action.

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December 2, 20130 found this helpful

I have been through this, not a husband and no kids, thankfully, but I had to get away. It never got it better like he promised. There are hotlines and people out there who are willing to help.


Google domestic violence and you will see all the results. You would have to pick one closest to you but there are ways to get out. I am sorry you feel so alone. :(

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