Legal Responsibility for Aging Estranged Parents?

October 8, 2015

My mother was abusive growing up. We have been estranged the majority of my adult life. She was recently placed in a nursing home. I have nothing and want nothing to do with her. Can she make me power of attorney without my agreeing to it? Am I in anyway responsible for financial costs for the nursing home or funeral when the time comes?


This is in Texas. As I said I want nothing to do with her and I am receiving phone calls from social workers, etc. in regards to her. When does it become harassment to me?


October 9, 20150 found this helpful

To the best of my understanding, Justaskin, you are responsible for nothing until and unless you put your signature on documents accepting responsibility. That said, please do not rely on opinions from this or any other site. Talk to a legal professional or several.

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October 9, 20150 found this helpful

I believe Rose Anne is correct: unless you signed anything, you are in the clear. Checking with an attorney on this is a very good idea and worth the money so you can be certain of your legal position.


Simply tell anyone who calls, mails, emails, etc., about your mother and money that you are not responsible for your mother's finances.

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October 11, 20150 found this helpful

I would suggest getting caller ID installed on your phone. You don't need to spend time answering calls from people you have no intention of speaking to.

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October 12, 20150 found this helpful

It is sad that you and your mother are in this kind of situation but the others are correct in that no one can make you POA unless you agree and sign the legal (notarized)



It may help if you had a session with an attorney as they could maybe write a letter for you to send to anyone "harassing" you stating your position and making it clear that you are not and will not be responsible for any debts incurred and that you do not want anymore communication from them.

I hope you know that you can visit your mother without incurring any responsibilities for her care.

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January 19, 20190 found this helpful

This is the worst advice Ive ever seen in my entire life. The problem isnt just bitter feelings. How dare you! Congratulations if you didnt have a horribly abusive parent.


She is cut off from her mother FOR A REASON. This is the same as shaming a domestic voilence victim for leaving her husband. Shame on you.

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