My boyfriend has own place and so do I. He works 6am to 7pm and picks me up to spend the night to wake up at 4am to serve him oatmeal, coffee, do the dishes, make him lunch for work, do laundry, and make dinner. I'm exhausted and can't do my responsibilities. What to do?
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Tell him "I'm exhausted and can't do my responsibilities." See him on the weekends, or whenever you actually want to see him. You and your priorities come first. Don't be afraid to just say so.
He is using you. Tell him you cant do this anymore because it is affecting your sleep.
Your situation sounds stressful.
I am not a professional, not a psychologist, don't play one on TV (although I wish I did) so my suggestion is just from my heart which is asking the question why don't the two of you just sit down and talk about this and work out a solution you can both live with so you can enjoy your relationship?
There are tons of websites that talk about working out relationship issues on line if you need some starting points...like:
www.psychologytoday.com/
www.realsimple.com/
If you are afraid to do this, then maybe it would help to talk to a professional. There are some out there that won't cost and arm and a leg....like maybe someone from your religious institution could help for free (a priest, rabbi, etc.)
Take care of you!! You are the only YOU you have!! Will send up prayers for you that you can work this all out!
Sounds like your boyfriend is getting the better part of your relationship. Talk it over with him and tell him you are exhausted and can not carry on with this routine.
This sounds like a very rigorous and stressful lifestyle for both of you. Your boyfriend is working long hours (how many days a week?) so it may be difficult for him to recognize that your routine is exhaustive for you.
I don't want to be a 'gender renegade' but I do have to admit that unfortunately no matter how much a woman works outside the home, due to upbringing or culture or who knows maybe even DNA programming, the brunt of housekeeping/nurturing duties falls to the woman. ALWAYS. I've even heard of situations where a woman shares a house with 2 or more men, completely platonic, completely no relationship of any sort, yet what ends up happening in the fullness of time is that SHE"S the only one who cleans up the kitchen, cleans the bathroom, sweeps, makes actual food, etc.
which is to say don't feel bad you've just fallen into The Female Trap, a trap the boyfriend is only too happy to exploit.
the cure is a conversation, as stated elsewhere on here, and possibly a wish to go stay at your house after all. Also a reasonable conversation about responsibilities and expectations, andyou could even (if you dare go there) that this is only the sort of effort that a man who puts a ring on your finger should expect but anything before that is premature and unfair to say the least. If you're going to be someone's bloody maid you may at least get some sort of security or compensation for it
Seems to me that he's High Maintenance, Low Liquidity
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