I am a 28 year old woman on the autism spectrum who fears the salon really badly. The thing I fear most is that I won't like it afterwards and that I will feel fake. I need to do this because my mom's vision isn't too great anymore and she keeps on poking my eyes with the scissors. I haven't styled my hair in ten years because going to a salon feels like an alien planet to me. I want to have a boyfriend and obviously looks are everything to them.
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There are software programs and websites that will allow you to upload a picture of yourself. You can then choose a variety of hairdos, and get a preview of how you will look. Print out the picture and take it to the salon. This way the hairdresser will know exactly what you want.
Do you fear going to a salon because it is a new environment and there may be a lot of people or the fear of getting your hair cut and styled by a complete stranger and it may not turn out as you hoped?
Some hair stylists travel to your home and can give you a haircut in the comfort of your own home. It does cost a little more but that could be an option.
For me, I had good/bad experiences with hair salons. I get my hair cut once a year and trimmed twice a year. Total trip to the salon 3x a year.
I bring in a photo of how I'd like my hair cut and ask the stylist if they think it'll look good on me. The stylist is pretty good at cutting and asking how I think, but if they don't you can tell them - I'm pretty nervous about my hair cut can you reassure me as you cut, or show me as you go to verify.
It sounds like the fear is to not liking the style. You could just ask for them to trim up your existing style. Most stylists will do that. This way you know you like what you have, it will just be trimmed up.
If the secondary fear is the going to a salon, perhaps you have a trusted friend who would be willing to trim your hair at home.
Not all men are all about looks and hair. Those that are are shallow and not marriage material! A good guy will like you for you!
Maybe this site can give you some helpful info:
www.psychologytoday.com/
Also consider taking to your doctor about ways to best manage your condition. There are many, many solutions that people find helpful and many do not involve medicine.
I will add you to my prayers that you can find someone special and happiness!
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