My boyfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I was wondering what an appropriate gift would be for his 34st birthday? I am 20, and a college student, so I don't make too much money, but I would really like to get him something nice.
He is a lawyer, but I don't really want to get him anything that reminds him of work. I was thinking about possibly buying him a down comforter (his comforter is really thin and doesn't keep him warm in the winter), but I don't know if that's too practical? Any advice would be great.
By kiki from Seattle, WA
Most of the men I know would really appreciate a practical, yet thoughtful, gift. Given a choice I'd rather give and receive something that will actually get used than another knick-knack, myself. I think the comforter sounds like a fabulous gift, especially if you include a sweet note about it keeping him warm.
If you decide it's too impersonal, I like to "give" outings that are geared toward the person's interests. Perhaps take him to a concert, day-hike and picnic, movie and nice dinner, or whatever you think he'd like. It really is the thought that counts so the important thing is to show that you're thinking of him. (04/11/2010)
I realize I am older and more old fashioned, but I think a comforter is a little on the personal side. I guess I would stick to an outing type of gift, just in case the relationship doesn't last. (04/11/2010)
I think I have to agree with redhatterb. I would go with some sort of special outing; tickets to a football game, or a play, concert, or whatever he would like. If he is 34 and a lawyer, he most certainly has much more money than you and can buy himself just about anything that he wants. Perhaps even a homemade birthday cake and a candle light dinner at your house.
I like to give an article of clothing; a sweater, shirt, gloves, because then whenever he wears it, he would think of you. But then, lots of the guys I have dated have been terrible dressers, so that is one reason I go with the clothes. A lawyer may have lots of suits and so on, but maybe a tee shirt with a logo of his favorite sports team? One thing, don't spend too much money. You likely can't afford it, and it isn't necessary. It really is the thought that counts. Especially with men. (04/12/2010)
My daughter came up with a quite unique idea that actually brought tears to her boyfriend's eyes. He had a dog that he absolutely loved, but as is nature, the dog eventually died. He was so close to this dog that he says he will never have another one.
Anyway, my daughter found a picture of this dog and had it put on piece that could be used as a Christmas ornament or just hung on the wall. Her boyfriend treasures it and I think it would be an appropriate gift for anyone for Christmas, birthday, any occasion, whether the relationship lasts or not. (Good luck with that, by the way.) Perhaps it could be put on a key chain or whatever your imagination comes up with. A very special gift. (04/12/2010)
If this is the first celebration you have spent with him, don't make it personal at all. No matter how close you are. Tickets to a sports game he likes, or dinner out and a movie he would like. Don't gift personal intimate gifts. No photo, no 2 day overnight mini-cation. I hate to be strange, but he is a wee bit older than you, and "older" men enjoy stuff for themselves. Have a wonderful relationship. (04/12/2010)
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