I have a formal coming up in November on the 6th. I have a friend who is a senior and I am a junior, but I would like to ask him to the dance. He and I are friends and have known each other for 3 years now, but we don't hang out except in JROTC which is the only class he and I have together. Sometimes he compliments me about how I look and last year at the military ball for JROTC the song "A Thousand Years" by Christina Perri came on and he asked me if I wanted to dance to it and I said yes. I like him, but I don't want to make things weird between us by asking him to formal. Any advice for if I should ask him or not? And if I should tell him how I feel?
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Sure, why not ask him? It's a dance not a steady commitment. It's always best to be upfront and honest about your feelings and intentions so nobody has to guess what they are. I say give it a shot!
I'd suggest going with him in a very casual way. I wouldn't go all out with a fancy invite. It sounds like you two have a good rapport, so just mention you'd like to go, ask him if he was thinking of going...
You two sound like you have a good background and long established friendship. I don't see why you shouldn't ask him. :)
Do you know any of his friends? Just to see if he is already planning to ask someone or has been asked?
Asking older man to a dance.
Step 1
You have to figure out if you just want him for a friend or more.
Step 2
Just be honest with him.
Step 3
I would ask him to the dance.
Ah, high school. I remember it well. At least I think I do. It's a time of awkwardness and uncertainty, and major fears of rejection. I was asked by a guy friend to prom when I was a junior and he was a senior. I was extremely awkward and expected more from him that he was ready for, and that awkwardness essentially ended our friendship. Don't let this happen to you.
Be confident in yourself.
You don't mention if you have a crush on him, just that he's your friend, so let's go with that. Let's assume you just want to hang out with a guy you think is fun to be with and think it would be nice to hit the dance floor with him and see what happens.
Next time you see him, casually ask him if he's got a date for the formal. If he doesn't, say, "Well, maybe we could go together. It'd be fun."
It's an invitation that doesn't really put him on the spot if he's not interested, and keeps it casual. No awkwardness. On the plus side, it shows him that you're at least interested in being with him outside of JROTC and it opens the door for him to consider something more without all that angsty stuff.
If you like him as more than a friend, it's completely okay to instead ask him, "Would you like to be my date for the dance?" The worst he can do is say, "No, thanks." If he turns you down, don't think of it as a rejection. Think of it as him missing an opportunity to get to know you better. If he does say no, just smile and say, "Okay. I'll see you later, then. Have a great day!"
Remember, the key here is to remain open, confident and positive. This isn't for his benefit, though, believe it or not. When you act confident and positive, you become those things. And if he does tell you no, consider it a learning experience and move on. He is still a friend.
I hope this helps you a bit and that no matter what happens, you have a great time at your formal.
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