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So there is this boy that I have liked since last year when I was a freshman. We have a winter dance soon called the Football Ball and the cheerleaders hold it. Can you help me come up with some cute ideas to ask him to the dance? Thank you.
By SaraJean from Casper, WY
Ok, so this is an idea that my friend used to ask his gf to homecoming. During class, he got a graphing calculator, and typed out "____ will you go to homecoming with me?" and she loved it and of course she said yes. (:
So my winter ball (winter formal) dance is coming up in about a month, and Im asking my guy friend, but i want to do it in a cute way, so I was thinking...the last home football game it tomorrow (10/2/12) and our high school logo is a mustang.
So I want to get him a mustang balloon, and get extra plain red and white (school colors) balloons, tie them around a football, and give it to him after the game, or put it either on the bench so during warm ups he'll get it as a surprise (of course I'll put his name on it so no one else takes it by mistake)
Here is what I did last year, I asked him through telephone. This year, I am planning to do a flashmob with some friends! Also, getting some baseballs, and writing "will you go to Sadies with me?". What should I do with the number 22 because he plays football and baseball. 22 is his football number!
I wanna ask out a dude that I know okayish, but I wanna do it in a kinda not cheesy way since he's not the kind to like that stuff.
Probably not cool to ask people to do things that they're not into. Dances are soooo high pressure.
Ask him in private if he would like to go with you. If he likes you enough, he will participate in an activity he might not have otherwise.
You are so lucky to be living in a time when anyone can ask anyone to dances or on dates and it is all good! These time are so different than when I grew up! I like the progress!!!
So you say you know him okayish...so maybe you talk on the bus or in a class or in the halls or at at the mall. I say wherever you usually do your talking you could just ask. Something as easy as "maybe you and I could go to the (fill in the blank dance or movies or whatever you want to invite him to)."
If he says yes, that is amazing, if he says no, his loss ON THAT EVENT...but be sure to find out if he is saying NO to that event or he just wants to keep the relationship date free.
This is an important thing some people may not interpret right....the person may say no thank you to a dance, but if you say maybe we can get ice cream or go roller blading, the person says yes.
Dating in middle school times is very tricky as everyone matures differently and may not have the social skills to say what they really mean. I still remember that frustration like it was yesterday.
If he says no to everything date-wise then you can decide if you still want to keep his friendship.
I will tell you, I have stayed friends with boys who knew I liked them but never asked me out (it was unheard of when I was young for a girl to ask a boy out mind you) when I was in middle school and high school. You never know how things are destined to work out so just go with the flow and always believe in yourself and your worth!! You are wonderful and amazing and no other person can take that away from you!!
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Here are some great ideas from previous years on how to ask a guy to a formal dance. Each school has it's own name: Sadies, Tolo, Sweethearts, Morp, etc. but usually the girl is supposed to ask and pay for everything. Over the years, the ways to ask have gotten more and more elaborate. Post your own ideas below but be sure that they are not too expensive, complicated, messy or dangerous.
My son just asked a friend to a dance using a treasure hunt. He placed clues in different locations: at a friend's house, a movie theater where he knows the manager, a park, and included a riddle in each one that sent her to the next location.
After she had gathered all the clues, she went home where he had left a poster asking her to the dance, but she had to use the clues she gathered to figure out the poster.
The clues were:
The girl responded by baking a cake with a message in it that sent my son to a line on a page in a specific book that said "Behold, my answer is Yes!" He loved it.
This young man is going to be flattered that you are asking him. Don't try and be creative, Just be your self. You are perfect as you are.
There are many cute ways to ask guys to dances. But it all depends on how close you are to him and how you feel about him. For example, cover his room with rose petals and tell him "Now that I have showered you with roses, will you dance the night away with me?" This one is fool proof and has a 90% success rate. Be yourself and have fun. Good luck.
I know lots of ways to ask guys to dances:
By songs about jane
One time when I was asking a boy to a girl ask guy dance, I took a plain white shirt and covered it with names of a ton of girls at my school, then on the poster board that said "Will you go to Sadies with me?" there were the instructions telling him to wash the shirt and find out who is asking you. My name was the only one written in permanent marker. He loved it.
Get a fortune cookie, stuff a note in it that says "A beautiful young lady (or handsome young man) will ask you to (name of dance.)" Hand them a single rose and pop the question.
I've heard that if you microwave a fortune cookie, you can get the original fortune out and stuff your newly printed fortune inside it, but I've never tried that method.
Hey these ideas are way good. Here's some I have used.
Hope that helped some of you guys because your ideas really helped me. Have fun on your dates.
I went to my junior prom with a guy I wouldn't have gone with just because he asked me in such a sweet way that I thought, "Hey I'll give the guy a chance". If he pays this much attention to me now, imagine what he'd be like if I got to know him.
He went to every locker in the hall and put a heart he had cut out of red construction paper over the lock. So it fit like a light switch plate. Then he left a note with the key to his locker and a rose taped to my locker. It said, "Maybe you might have overlooked me in the halls in the past. But take this key and follow it to find me and unlock my heart." I took the key and tried it in every locker, being cheered on by the entire school, who took just as much interest in finding out what was going on. When I got to his locker, it of course opened. There was a tape player that said "Play me". It was playing the classes Prom song. He was standing behind me and tapped me on the shoulder. And said, "Can I have this dance? And if I promise not to step on your toes will you go to Prom with me?"
Well I had already been thinking about going with a guy who had asked me months ago, but he was so charming I said yes. We had an amazing time and I don't regret it for a second. Just be genuine and you'll be liked for who you are.
The best way to ask him to a dance is to ask him straight up. Men (boys) are a little slow sometimes and may misunderstand you any other way. With the guy I asked to my school's dance, I tried a creative way of doing it and he got confused. After I asked him plain and straight, he understood me and said yes. This is the best way to go. Good luck.
I asked a guy by playing hangman once. Another time, on his birthday, I got him a pinata and had him bust it open with his favorite candy and a note asking him to the dance. Never ever got a no.
Alright so I read this in a book, but I thought these were the cutest ideas (the first idea being the best, which I will soon try with my bf):
"I'm not looking for kisses,
I'm not asking for hugs,
Just a sparkling night
with one of my buds."
Then you get Hershey Kisses and Hugs, a bottle of sparkling cider, and a rose bud. Then you put your name as one of the papers in the Hugs or Kisses. Make sure to leave a hint of where you hid you name.
One day in chemistry, my teacher was finishing up a lecture. Before the class ended he asked if anyone had any questions. This kid in my class raised his hand, stood up, turned to the girl to his left, and said "Well, actually, I was wondering if Sara would go to prom with me" I thought it was sweet. Oh, and she said yes.
Here are a few ideas that my friends and I have used in the past:
Also, my guy friends like it when A. girls decorate their rooms B. girls bake them food that spell out "turnabout?" and C. when it's totally unexpected
Good luck with that.
This one worked for me. Make a card and in the front write "Prince?" And when he opens the card, write:
"Every Princess needs her own Prince Charming
Won't you be mine,
Well just for one night?
These are some great ideas! Here's what I did last year for homecoming:
I liked this guy, and we both worked at the local movie theatre, where we have to add up whatever the customer orders in our heads, so I knew all of the prices for everything. Well, I was too shy to ask him in person, so one night, when my mom and I went to a movie, I got the exact change for my concessions, and wrapped up a note in my money that said "I know it's kind of cheesy, but I would totally love it if you went to homecoming with me!". The next day, after marching band practice, he said yes.
This is a cute way to ask a guy to a dance.
Have a day where you and the guy hanging out and then play thumb war and say "1234 I declare a thumb war, 5678 will you be my snowball date". (11/10/2007)
This is what I did my freshmen year. I got a huge box and put pink balloons with pigs drawn on them. Then on the top of the box I put a cute little sign that said "my mom said I could ask you to sadies, the day pigs could fly", then when he opened the box, the balloons with the pigs on them flew up. On the bottom of the box it said, "Look at that pigs are flying". He totally loved it and had no other choice, but to say yes. (11/23/2007)
One way I asked a guy to a dance was, I sent a stick of butter to 3 of his classes. Nothing special on it, just the butter, then his last class of the day I gave him popcorn and on it, it said, "Now that vI'e buttered you up, I wanna POP the question. Will you go to sweethearts with me?" Then I hid my name in the popcorn. It's just kinda a fun way to ask. It worked, he said yes. (11/27/2007)
Last year I asked my boyfriend to morp by using sticky glue and glow in the dark stars on his ceiling above his bed spelling out morp. When he turned the lights off he saw it and left it up for about a year. (01/02/2008)
This is an awesome way. Put a bunch of balloons in the trunk of this car, and a sign inside that says "will you go to the dance with me?" so when he goes to unlock it the balloons fly out and he sees the sign. (01/11/2008)
If he's on a sports team, while he's running laps, put signs up along the track or field saying "Name", "WILL", "YOU", "GO", "TO", "SWEETHEARTS" "WITH" and instead of just putting the last sign up, stand there holding the "ME" sign (01/11/2008)
My boyfriend is really into playing the guitar, so when turnabout came up last year, I decided to make a guitar-shaped cake (they have guitar baking pans) and decorated it like his favorite guitar. I then attached a sign to the plate saying "it would rock my world if u went to turnabout w/ me" and I put my name. He absolutely loved it. (01/12/2008)
I once asked a guy to girls choice by making 4 little cards. On the front there was the MasterCard symbol and on the back each one said something different:
He said no though, but it was cute.(01/14/2008)
I was a little upset over a recent love issue and my Sadie Hawkins/Winter Formal came about. Instead of moping around over the loser guy, I decided to just ask a friend, but make it really platonic.
I bought a bag of Dum Dums and wrote on them, "Don't be a Dum Dum, go to winter formal with me".
He loved it, and now all of us girls are making up cute ideas to ask our guy friends/boyfriends. I say just really have fun with Sadie Hawkins, it doesn't have to be a romantic night, just ask a friend and dance the night away. (01/16/2008)
I was at my soon-to-be-date's house just hanging out. I decided to have a friend distract him and I went upstairs, wrote in lipstick on his bathroom mirror "turnabout?" xoxo_____. I then suggested we play hide and seek. I told him he was my partner and ran to hide in the bathroom. When my friends found us, they switched on the lights and he saw it. He was so flattered.
Another friend asked by putting a note that said "turnabout" inside a balloon and taping it on his bedroom door. On the outside of the balloon it read "Pop me", so he did the the note popped out. (01/16/2008)
If you have a dress to wear to the dance, buy a tie that matches it. Write a note to the guy that says "here's a tie to match my dress, will you go with me to Winterfest" or another cute rhyme. Then pack the tie up along with the note and mail it to his house. My sister did this and I thought it was adorable, her boyfriend was surprised. (01/17/2008)
My boyfriend is into extreme hairstyles, and sometimes it tends to be on the messy side. So for homecoming I bought a box of "Honeycomb" cereal, put his picture on it, tied balloons to it and wrote under "Honeycomb your hair cause we're going to Homecoming!" He loved it. (01/19/2008)
By Princess 1989
Here's a couple ideas:
OK, so take chalk and go to his driveway and outline your body on the driveway and then get those orange cones and caution tape and put it around the outline of our body. (like a murder scene) Then write "I'll die if you don't go to turnabout with me."
Those are adorable. However if your asking a guy, I think you should get chocolate kisses and shower his room with them like on the floor and bed and on poster board write: "Now that I have kissed the ground you walk on and showered you with kisses, would you go to ________dance with me?" (01/29/2008)
So all I did was make a t-shirt. On the front, it said the guy's name and on the back its said "turnabout" with a question mark. (02/02/2008)
By he makes my day
Make him a cake and spell out turnabout or whatever, but make it in a heart shape. He'll love it. (02/03/2008)
Just come out and say it. Guys don't need all the bells and whistles of courting and wooing them. Just ask them out. They won't say no. They will be so surprised and glad you asked.
I asked my boyfriend to a dance by making a book about a fairytale and leaving it on his car with balloons and bells on his antenna. The book said "Once upon a time there was a princess named ____ and she had the most wonderful boyfriend in all of the land, prince _____". The next page said: "There was a ____ dance ball to be held on _____ and princess _____ desperately wanted her prince charming ______ to attend this special evening with her". Then it said: "If prince____ accepts, he will wear this crown and come to her doorstep tonight". (I got a plastic crown and attached it to the back of the book).
He said yes, of course and showed up with a single red rose, the crown on, and the cutest part was that he had one of those horses that is on a stick. It was the cutest thing ever, he is truly my prince charming. (04/19/2008)
Get pieces of red paper and roll it to look like dynamite then glue them together, put your name into one of them and on the outside of them write "It would be a BLAST if you went to ___ with me!" and have them take apart the "dynamite" to find your name. (07/15/2008)
I've got an idea for you that my friend did. It's so cute.
He went to Build A Bear and made her a bear and put a voice box in it and said "will you go to homecoming with me?", dressed it in a tux and put a name tag putting his name and bought a Bulid A Bear dress and a sign that said "now the only thing that's missing is you! and going without you would be un'bear'able." Totally the cutest thing freakin ever. (09/10/2008)
When I asked my good friend to winter formal and he loved it. Our winter formal is in December so I did like a little Christmas story. I bought fake snow like cotton and stuff and put it all over his front yard and I had his best friend be like the narrator of the "story". His friend was dressed up like Santa Claus and there was a huge box in his front yard, that's where I was, inside the box. It was wrapped like a present.
The story was like: "once upon a time a girl and boy became friends in elementary school". And then he said, "Their senior year she gave him a huge present". And the "Santa" told him to go open the present and I popped out with a piece of posterboard that said "winter formal?" and he said yes. It was so cute.(10/01/2008)
Super cute idea: You laminate a note that says : "now that you've melted my heart, will you go to formal with me?"
Then you freeze it in a heart shaped pan so when the ice melts they get that note. That's what I'm doing. (12/08/2008)
My boyfriend asked me to homecoming last year by writing "H C ?" in candles on my driveway. At midnight told me to go outside of my house. I was really confused so opened up my door and walked outside to find my boyfriend standing in my driveway with the candles. It was so adorable. I was so surprised and of course I said yes.
He put a mirror in my locker and and said "mirror, mirror on the wall, you would be the best homecoming date of them all" and had two arrows and I was looking at me, ha ha. It was so cute I loved it. (01/05/2009)
To ask a guy to a dance I went around town taking pictures of me doing funny things and put them on a poster that said "now that I've shown you all my sweet skills will you go to the dance with me?" (Napoleon Dynamite reference) (01/19/2009)
So to ask my boyfriend to winter formal at my school, I got a bag of his favorite chips and cut the bottom open and took out all the chips. Then I re-stuffed it with pieces of paper that said "will you go to formal with me?" and resealed the bag with glue so you couldn't tell it had been opened.
When I gave him the bag, he ripped it open and reached inside, but instead of his favorite chips, he found my notes to him. He gave me the biggest smile ever and hugged me tight saying it was the best bag of chips he'd ever gotten and he'd love to go with me. Good luck girls. (01/28/2009)
A few ways to ask a guy/girl are:
So a whole bunch of girls asked guys to Sadie's and they spelled it out in rocks on the street. Then they said come give me the rock with your answer on it. Then the girls wrote "no" on a huge rock that they couldn't lift and "yes" on the smallest rock. (02/02/2009)
I have this huge dance coming up and I have never gone to a formal dance before. I need to ask this guy that I like in a cute way.