Family Reunion With New Found Family?

Six months ago, a brother I never know I had found me. With Covid and being in different states, he and I along with another brother and a bunch of aunts, uncles and extended other family members have yet to meet face to face. But hoping to soon this summer. I'm looking for advice on what not to truly say or do in advance to meeting them all. After 56 years apart, I don't want to mess up a chance on true happiness in getting to know each other.


Thanks in advance, any help would be greatly appreciated

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April 16, 20210 found this helpful

That is exciting to find new family! The best thing to do is say tell me more about (yourself, your childhood, your life today, your immediate family, your job, etc.) and let them talk!!

Once you feel more comfortable you can add to the conversation. Remember, they probably have the same anxiety of meeting you.

If they beat you to it and say tell me about you to you...then offer high level info and turn it back over to them. After a few volleys of conversation you should get into a natural flow!

If it starts to feel uncomfortable, try to steer them back to the positive. Even things like tell me about your favorite family vacation or birthday party, or a funny story about your mutual parent.


The keys are listening and learning, being empathetic and welcoming and keeping it light to start!!!


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April 16, 20210 found this helpful

I would have a picnic in a park with open space for as many people as possible. Start with general topics. You will find that you will have some things in common to talk about. Avoid politics and religion. I have a feeling this reunion is going to go very well. Im happy for you.

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April 17, 20210 found this helpful

I will tell you that we found a long lost brother just before I turned 40. He had been given up for adoption prior to my mother and father getting married. They tried to get him back after the wedding but parents' rights were different in the 60s and the adoption was allowed to stand. My mom tried to find him forever and managed just months before she passed away. When we met him, he fit right in immediately.


My brother had different life experiences than the rest of his siblings but shares a similar sense of humor and other connections. He works in computers and so do we. When Mom found him, his adopted parents had passed away and he grew up with no siblings so finding this large extended family must have been a shock, but it seems like it was a welcome one. His family now comes to Christmas and some birthdays. We all went camping once too, which was a lot of fun. He's the older brother that I never had but always wanted.

I would not worry too much about meeting your new brother. I'm sure you all will try your hardest to find common ground and it will work out for the best. Congratulations, I'm wishing you the best of luck.

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