Locating Adopted Relatives

February 12, 2020

I am currently typing with so much Joy in my heart, I have never felt this happy all my life. My parents told me at a very young age that I was adopted, I was fine with that, but what they never told me was that I had a sister. After the death of my dad, my mother invited me over for dinner, it was then she told me the story of how I was adopted and how they couldn't adopt my sister too because they had only planned to have one child, so they left my sister behind, at first I was angry but I later came to understand their plight, this was about four years ago.


Since then I have been trying to find my sister, I tried DNA tracing, several websites and social media, but they all failed me, I did this for over two years, my heart was not at rest throughout those years as I was always thinking about what kind of life my sister had lived, whether she was alive, married, had kids etc., I just really wanted to see her and connect with her but every method I used to find her failed me.

Fast forward to last November, a friend I met at a local bar asked me what was on my mind and I began to cry, I told him how hard I had been trying to find my sister and how woefully I have failed at it, out of pity he made some phone calls right there and he told me to send a mail to this private investigator called VIRGO. I was reluctant at first but I decided to give it a try, we spoke via mail mostly because she moves around a lot. I sent her the details I had about my birth history and origin, I also sent her my sister's name and an old photograph my mother had shown to me.

She mailed me this January telling me she had found my sister, I wasn't sure she was telling me the truth so I asked for proof, in less than four hours, I received a phone call from my long lost sister who I had been looking for in years, I could not stop the tears from my eyes when my sister began to share her old memories with me, she even told me about the day I was taken away, how she cried and begged to go with me, how she ran after the vehicle until she was exhausted.

I met her last week, she flew in to London to come and see me here, it was the happiest moment of my life, and we spoke about a lot of things, her children her marriage and my original parents. I am flying home to Italy next week to see my biological mother, sadly my Biological father had passed.

I am so grateful to God and my friend Sam for linking me up with Virgo. I feel whole again, I am really a blessed man. If you need to find a loved one please send me a message, I spoke to VIRGO about starting a website but she said she can only take on a job at time and having a website would be a problem for that.

I am a happy man again.

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January 3, 2010

I have been looking for years for my niece and nephew who were put in an orphanage in Houston, TX. I don't know which one because a ex-brother-in-law was responsible and he wouldn't give us any information.

I can't afford to get private investigators or spend more for the searches, but I am now 59 years old and have tried to find them since I was in my early teens. Could someone tell me what I can do to find out information on them.


I have been haunted by these lost loved ones all my life nearly and before I die I would just like to know where and how they are. Please help, anyone. God bless any of you that can help me with this dilemma. I really need help. I cannot just let it go.

Thank you dearly from my heart. Hugs.

By kay from Clyde, TX


January 3, 20100 found this helpful

I'm sure you know their last name. On (the free part of it) they have message boards for individual surnames, and you can post a message for them or any of their children/grandchildren.

You can post as much information as you have and check back to see if you get any response.

I know this can work, because just last year I used it to find my husband's birth family -- mother, full sister, a half-brother and a half-sister, and all the extended family that goes with them.


Best of luck in your search.


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January 3, 20100 found this helpful

It looks like a good place to start is the International Soundex Reunion Registry. This service provides a way for parents and adopted children to find each other. If the adopted children are also seeking you out then this service might be able to provide a match.

The services of a private investigator who is skilled in adoption cases is really the best way to handle this. It might be worth seeing if you can find a charity, possibly even a local charity or church, who would be willing to help with the expense.


Good Luck

January 7, 20100 found this helpful

First off, when you search yourself, look for the nephew. He'll be easier to look for even if the adoption changed his last name. Dealing with up to two names as opposed to the neice being married one or more times. Go to the city county building in the city where you believe the adoption took place. Tell them your doing a GENEOLOGY, not searching for birth family. Search marriage licences. I had to go three times "researching my geneology" till I hit paydirt. Remember to watch what you say when looking - adoption is still a very dirty word to many out there.


Try Cjgeo's idea of - it can't hurt. ISRR is good but they may not know/remember you and unless you specifically search adoption stuff, you won't know about ISRR.

If you check with local private I's or attorneys, check and see if they do any Pro Bono work. The right one can probably have your info almost immediately. As for the orphanages, contact them all. If you can prove your an aunt,(pictures, letters, misc) you may get farther. Sympathetic employees are who gave me the names of my Birth Mother.

If you have photos of the children, you can always post them in certain magazines in the help section. Country or Reminisence has done that for soldiers and so forth. Some have simply posted letters to the help area of the magazine. Post in certain - high standard - chat rooms and message boards. Post here, all your info, think how many people read Thrifty Fun?!!


Email me if you have questions, I'm here and I care. Nellie

January 7, 20100 found this helpful

strangely enough, FaceBook is another place to look for them. my sister's email was old and I couldn't contact her, so I Googled her, hoping she had done something that Google listed-and she had got onto FaceBook. it helps that I knew her name, and that we have a very rare maiden name, but even with a common surname, you can find relatives.

get on the list at (go to itself to see how to sign on) and ask for help, there are a lot of people on the list who've done adoption research and can show you the ropes, even help you do the research.

also, Google adoption research, there's some sites out there with free info.

January 7, 20100 found this helpful

I remember years ago the "Salvation Army" found lost relatives. But you would need their social security numbers. The rest of these suggestions are also excellent. Good Luck.

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