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I need to know if he is living or whether he is deceased. How to search for this information?
By JD from NC
If you haven't already, try searching on facebook.
Just try the internet, period. You can find an amazing (and scary) amount of information about people online. If he has an unusual last name, it's considerably easier, of course.
There are a couple websites that may help you...
I wonder why you need to know? If it concerns social security, they will know.
I Googled. I Googled his name, and the names of everyone in his family, and ya know, it really is scary how much info is out there on the Internet, wowsa!
Try findagrave.com. You can search different parts of the country and if he's dead and buried you'll likely find his grave. I was doing a family tree and a woman at the cemetery told me about this site and I found a lot of burial places of relatives all over the country. It will also tell you of obituaries and you may find information there you can use. Also try familysearch.org. Also try genealogy.com.
One of these sites, don't remember which but has census records. The latest years are not listed yet though. If you do a search, type in his name and the census will list all the people in that household. You'll also find where he lived at the time of that census. Depending on how old he is, this may help you, or it may not. In any case, you'll certainly learn about your ancestors and you'll have a lot of fun in the process. Good luck!
You can also try the Salvation Army. They are especially helpful when you truly can't find someone, if they may be homeless or an alcoholic (I don't know your situation, so I am not saying this is the case).
Over the past 5 years we have gotten calls and letters off and on, from the SA, someone looking for their grandfather with the same name as my husband. Hope you find what you need!
Thank you for posting this. I too have often wondered if my ex was still alive. He is my eldest daughter's father and she never knew him.
Tips and ideas for locating your ex-husband. Read other people's ideas and post your ideas below.
Hire a tracker to find him they are expensive but worth it.
My ex and I have been separated for 17yrs. We aren't divorced and he married someone else in 2002.
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I am looking for my dad; he lives in Detroit MI on the westside. Where do I go to find him for free? Or who can I hire to find him?
By Ronnesha from Auburn, AL
I recommend this site to all: privateeye.com
It will tell you if they are there usually and you can tell if it's them because other people who do or have lived with them on record at other times will be listed next to their names. They used to give more detail, so that's the next step to solve: whitepages.com may or may not have their address and phone number, only land phone lines, but with an address you can call information OR, you can call the main library of the nearest large town [your own if you live in a fairly large town] and many times a librarian will look up their number in the phone book for you, or you can email the library research line.Most large libraries have phone books for large cities all over the world.
There may also be someone here who has a membership in a site like privateeye.com or peoplefinders.com who would be willing to look up some info for you, if the membership covers every look up; if it's per report, well then, maybe not.
A surprising thing to me, so maybe it will be to you, is just google the name. I have found myself and many people that way, especially if you know the entire name and the exact spelling. It's a start.
I was answering this to 'want to find my father, free resources' but somehow I ended up answering want to find my ex, but info is good for both. (03/14/2010)
By PENNY K
Have you tried locating him using the whitepages.com? You can also check the real estate records at the tax assessor's office in Detroit. Also, you can google his name and see what comes up. There are some people finder services that charge about $25.00 if you want to spend a little. (03/18/2010)
I've had pretty good luck with zabasearch.com.
I've known a few people who found who they were looking for via MySpace, Facebook or Twitter. Even if it doesn't seem possible that he would have one of those accounts it's worth a try. (03/18/2010)
Try "switchboard" or "yahoopeople" on the internet. Easy to find anyone except if their name is very common like Smith. (03/18/2010)
By doris gordon
How can I go about finding my ex-husband? I want to change my kids' surname.
Vicky from UK
Contact a lawyer. You don't have to find him you have to try to find him. The lawyer will know all the ins and outs. Good luck. (01/04/2008)
Use this free website to locate someone.
You may find several addresses for the same person if they move around much.
Our Family and Probate court has a free lawyer available one morning of each week to help people prepare for court. Call the court clerk and see if this is the same in your area. If there is no lawyer then you could also ask the clerk for help on what steps you need to take. When I divorced my ex husband I didn't know where he was either and all I had to do was run a couple of legal ads in the classified section of a couple of newspapers in the area I last knew him to be living in. It's not going to be as hard as you think, however it's going to take time. Be patient and good luck. (01/05/2008)
When I am trying to find someone, I go to either:
It's helped me find people. Good luck.
I paid 20 dollars to find my 2 half sisters on the internet. One was in California and one in Texas and I'm from Illinois. I've found my little girl friend from when I was 10 years old, on Yahoo people search for free. I found her mom in Tennessee and I'm now 48 and she and I have both been married. It's very easy if you're willing to pay 20 dollars, but try Yahoo people search, it's really good. (01/07/2008)
By Janice C.