I was in the foster care system and my foster mom put a perm in my hair when I was two. Growing up it's been really tough, my hair is so brittle and hard. Now what do I do? I'm 17 now and even though this happened when I was 2 there is no telling what else she did. How do I manage my hair by myself? What kinds of oil or grease will work? Please help me.
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I've had good results with mayonnaise. Take a spoonful and work it well into your hair including the scalp. Let it sit for 15+ minutes. Shampoo as usual, but you need a gentle shampoo. This will make the shower floor slippery so be careful.
It's also important to eat good oils like nuts, seeds, olive oil, tuna and salmon. Your hair gets its oils from your body which gets it from your food.
Use Wen by Chaz Dean's Fig cleansing conditioner. You can find it at Ulta and QVC.com. His cleansing conditioners are great for my hair which is very fine. I have hormonal issues that effect both my scalp and hair and this has seems to really help.
I was a professional stylist, so I will say this: Even if you only go 4 times a year, Find a good stylist who is not overly focused on cutting your hair. Regular trimming is needed but not necessary to have a cut. Talk to friends and acquaintances whose hair is well taken care of and get tips from them along with referrals for stylists.
If you want to continue with perms/relaxers, have a stylist do it and instruct you how to maintain your hair between visits.
As for home care, look for shampoos and conditioners formulated for dry hair, and without sulfates in them. Get a moisturizing deep conditioner to use once a month (usually a thick cream), and a protein treatment to use once every 1-2 months.
As for oil, unless you are allergic, regular old coconut oil (like you might find at the grocery store) will do wonders, just use sparingly. Above all, between salon and home care, have patience, there will be some immediate changes but everything will not change overnight or with one treatment.
Since I don't know what products you have been using on your hair, I cannot give exact advice on whether you need a deep cleansing treatment to remove buildup, or whether you perhaps need to avoid heat for a while. But hopefully you will have some success from what I have shared. Good luck!
Nothing that happened to your hair when you were two is going to be affecting your hair now. It is not likely that anything that was put on your hair years ago has any affect now. Even people who have things like chemo which causes ones hair to fall out, do not have lingering affects from this years after.
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