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Helping a Loved One with Alzheimer's

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Alzheimer's is a difficult disease for everyone involved to deal with. Being there and supportive for someone in your life with Alzheimer's is extremely important. This is a guide about helping a loved one with Alzheimer's.


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By 6 found this helpful
February 28, 2012

There is a doctor named Mary Newport that has made some wonderful discoveries regarding Alzheimer reversal by adding pure coconut oil to her husband's food. Within only days, there were amazing results. I understand she has now written a book chronicling her findings called "Alzheimer's Disease; What If There Was A Cure?" Sounds very promising. Hope you find this helpful


By Deb S. from Chesterfield, MI

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By 4 found this helpful
March 1, 2012

Alzheimer's is a type of dementia. There are many other types of dementia. It bothers me when people always say 'Alzheimer's'. My husband has FTD Dementia. Michael J. Fox has Parkinson's dementia. There is also Huntington's dementia, ALS dementia, and many others. It would be nice if one would say 'dementia', or 'type of dementia' instead of always calling dementia 'Altzheimer's'. It is very hard on the caregiver, and they need to be recognized also. :o)

By Linda from Sarcoxie, MO

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March 3, 2012

I have no tip for preventing or curing this awful disease, but I have a dear friend who works at a care facility for advanced Alzheimer and brain damaged adults. Her main suggestion is to never, ever argue with them. Instead redirect, refocus, or just go along with them with delay tactics or, if necessary, lie.

Correcting and arguing with them only leads to an emotional situation which serves no purpose. Instead say something like, "I'm busy right now. Let's go see Bob later today." or "I really like your shirt. Can we find a jacket (tie, sweater, etc.) that will go with it?" or "After lunch we'll look for the tools you are missing. I'll help you find them, but not until after lunch." If they want to see their husband, wife or son who is dead and then you insist that they really understand that that person is no longer living, you will only causes anguish, grief and unnecessary pain.


The point being that delay and refocus allows their attention to be drawn elsewhere and there is no friction.

They seem to thrive on useful and repetitive activities such as sorting beads or zipping and unzipping something; some also enjoy tactical experiences such as touching soft, furry item alongside something rougher like sandpaper.

Just some thoughts and suggestions. Blessings to all who are dealing with this with a loved one.

By Monteimom from Kingman, AZ

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July 9, 2008

It's trial and error with a parent living in a group homes' "memory care" for dementia. Remembering that entertainment is variable with each person's interest, ability, attention span, health, preferences, understanding/ comprehension, and memories. I have to be ever-observant while with my mother, making best use of every precious moment.


My mother seems to dislike crafts, but I am learning what she is best at, at her age of 85, but apparent mental age of around 8-12 years, by helping her to re-train her mind rather than just to occupy her hands, especially since she was never very interested in using them for crafts.

She used to play the piano a lot, type and write well. I took an old electric keyboard and she enjoyed playing that. I may find an old electric typewriter for her to try again.

She loves to be talked to, so I try to talk about world events. She appreciates knowing and hearing the reality of what is going on in the outside world rather than being treated like an invalid in a hospital. I neither patronize nor talk down to her. I try to stay totally honest with her and help her to remember when she forgets.

I bought a beach ball on a 75% off sale which I plan to toss with her, to discover more of anything she might do and like best.

I know she doesn't like group activities, so she sits off to the side or back and just watches in silence. She seems ashamed of her circumstances and prefers not to draw attention to herself as she always did before dementia.

She still likes food, so we might make something simple in the homes' group kitchen there sometime. I may have to learn to allow other residents to join in.

One thing I noticed that is missing which would help them to get to know each other better is nametags, so we might get a list of first names, make special decorated name tags of some sort and give them out. The staff encourages fun and fellowship among the residents.

She loves to keep clothes folded neatly, so we might fold her linens together because the staff often just tosses them into the bath closet haphazardly when too busy and short-handed.

She used to love money, so we might try counting money once again together, even if only a few dollars and a few coins, prior to my paying bills.We might even make a funny plastic piggy bank to which I can add pennies each time I come, then buy whatever she wants when it gets full.

She forgets little things she'd like me to buy if I can, so a "memory board" with a dry erase pen might be a good thing to have near her snack area by her entry. She needs a new bra, so I might have one that I can spare.

I avoid reminding her of whatever she's lost or has to legally do without, such as showing photos of her sold lovely home and cherished car. She'd rather not speak of them, she says.

She doesn't care for blowing soap bubbles, seeing or holding pets, electronic games, but misses her handbag. I may find an old one she gave to me and fill it with goodies like chewing gum, because she likes it and has 99% of her teeth still; perhaps a pencil/tablet, a wallet with misc. Papers inside, names of residents and their room numbers, and a comb and safe fold-up compact of face powder, chap stick, and a tiny plastic tube of hand lotion, such as a parent might buy for a little girl?

She has appreciated a hearing device that costs $16.95 New from walgreens, or mail order, which I found for cheap at a thrift store. Because it has cords to the ear pieces, and a tiny clip on amplifier, I bring it with me and let her "borrow it" for better hearing and ease for me not having to speak loudly. (She threw her expensive two sets of hearing aids out the window and in the trash in the past because she didn't like them and they often whistled in need of constant adjustment, reminding her of how unattractive and uncomfortable they are, she said.)

Puzzles are totally impossible for her to do, but I may try the fewest pieces to see if she can figure them out somehow and re-train the part of her brain damaged by stroke leading to dementia.

She loves flowers and color, so I will keep that in mind. She just might like to paint, if only with her fingers with washable tempera, markers or even make colorful clay things, perhaps wire shaped cloth flowers on pipe cleaner stems, "for someone in the hospital".

I know that she sent cards to everyone she knew, so I might bring her some older blank cards to write a message to others at the home on. There is one woman who comes into her room unannounced, leaves a tiny note, then exits as quickly as she arrived.

Other residents there seem to enjoy "borrowing her clothes" when she is out of her room or asleep, so I may leave a box of clothing just inside her room "free for the taking".

She had a poor childhood during the great depression, but played music, with dolls, so we might try to make different sorts of small dolls, such as from rags, corn shucks, spools, clay, yarn, or even potatoes. I have no idea if she has ever done this or is interested until I try to work it in.

I like the idea of making a personal book of her favorite magazine pictures, pets, a few simple jokes to read again and again,perhaps even making a personal "picture library".

Now I am saving the plastic pour-spouts ofrom the tops of almond milk cartons. They open and shut like doors, are flat on back, and I hope to place matching pictures at random behind each one lined up and glued on a page like a bingo card, but for a memory game.

Also, I hope to make a memory game of large index playing cards we can decorate two of together, then play like "go fish." It will solve the hands-on exercise.

She likes decorated things, so we might hot glue some beads and ribbons on an old t-shirt, "To give to someone worse off" (This seemed to work for homeless folks to think there were others who had even less than them somewhere.)

She still knows her math but does poorly on all other subjects, telling me that she could craft with numbers on things, stencil, count things, and maybe re-train her brain to solve problems involving things she never knew?

One thing I learned about older elders with dementia. When they don't want something, stop. They are used to getting their way in a memory care home for the most part, if it is a better group home. If it is not an accommodating home, it's time to pamper the elder parent or change homes.

I'm considering fixing and setting up an old bulletin board for whatever we make so she can look at them, and show them to other residents/ staff who visit.

Keeping in mind that vision is most important. If good vision, there are more options. If poor vision, as is too often the case, the crafts or entertainment needs to be bigger. If near-sighted, smaller items with more details are possible. Scissors, needles, pins, and knives are not a good idea to use, to prevent accidents.

Just spending time to find out what works will be an on-going joy and a challenge for me, at least during the longer visits. Coming fully prepared, keeping the work-space clean, and staying with her at all times will be very important. She is a fall-risk, and is still fairly ambulatory, able to walk on her own, but is supposed to use a walker. This also helps me to recognize and help her to have minimal frustrations as we continue to age together, as well as what to expect as I approach her age.

Inviting my grandson into the plans helps him to understand elders, to learn organization, to analyze, to plan ahead, to learn more about living and dying, time management, to put age, respect, and honor in the proper perspective, to know better how to care for others, and to be prepared for most anything. Such lessons are character building in an older child, experience a child of any age might not ever get if neither willing, encouraged, nor invited.

by Lynda from Richardson, TX

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October 24, 20060 found this helpful

My 77 year old father has Alzheimer's disease and I haven't got a clue what to get him for christmas. Any idea's would be welcome.

Tulapip from Hampshire UK


October 25, 20060 found this helpful
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What is you make him a family video diary. There are tons of computer programs that offer the support you need to do this. They are quite easy to make. You can round up years of family photos, home movie clips, new family clips can be made, talk about "favorite memories or past-times", maybe add vacation exerps...
Then he can watch this over and over and over.

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October 25, 20060 found this helpful
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Hi Tulapip!!! I like the idea of the family video diary. I thought a scrap book of family and friends would be nice, too (with names, places, etc). He can "thumb" through it any time. May God bless you and your family :) My mother in law has been diagnosed with Alzheimer's, also.

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October 25, 20060 found this helpful
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I have read about Alzheimer studies that show that one type of memory that doesn't seem to be affected is musical memory. Many patients with severe memory loss can still remember and play music they've heard throughout their lives. Anyway, I thought it might be nice to get some recordings of music that was popular when he was young. Having something he'll find familiar and comforting might make him happy.

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October 25, 20060 found this helpful
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Maybe something like a busy board. We had a man in nursing home I worked in and they took a square of plywood(or something) and put a hasp ,and other things he could "workwith. It has been many years now so hard for me to remember all that was on it but maybe the idea will inspire someone to come up with something like it for you. God Bless.

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October 26, 20060 found this helpful
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Make a family photo album with stories----make it into a book!
Make a basket with things that comfort him----things he loves or used to love.
Take him for car rides where he grew up or just out and about.

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October 27, 20060 found this helpful
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I made tapes of my Dad's favorite music from his earlier years.....They seened to sooth him and some days appeared to make him more aleart. Hope this idea helps...Good luck

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By guest (Guest Post)
October 28, 20060 found this helpful
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warm fleece blanket and sturdy bedroom slippers

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October 31, 20060 found this helpful
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i knew someone who had that situation and the elderly would leave the house for a walk. yet on returning would forget the way. for safety of you father i suggest an identification bracelet or necklace.

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By 0 found this helpful
February 17, 2010

Awhile back someone sent in some ideas about treating Alzheimer's using ginkgo and another vitamin. I would really appreciate getting that information again.

I really enjoy everything about "thrifty fun" Thanks so much.


February 17, 20100 found this helpful

Ginkgo Biloba for Alzheimer's Disease: Alzheimers Information

Ginkgo Biloba
Alternative treatments for Alzheimer's disease
Ginkgo biloba is a Chinese medicine that has been used for centuries. Ginkgo is one of the most popular herbs in the USA and Europe. The medicine is extracted from leaves of the ginkgo biloba tree and is believed to improve brain function.

Research however shows only minimal benefits. Various studies claim ginkgo biloba has;
antioxidant properties
antinflammatory properties

There is some evidence that ginkgo inhibits the formation of beta-amyloid, a protein that forms amyloid plaques in the brains of people with Alzheimer's disease

Ginkgo biloba is also thought to increase cerebral circulation, blood flow to the brain.
The difficulty of stating absolutes about ginkgo's effectiveness is that research findings vary in their results. Some clinical trials do show some small positive effects on people with Alzheimer's disease, other studies no effect.

At the present time there is no evidence that ginkgo biloba will cure or prevent Alzheimer's disease. One large scale clinical research project by the National Institute on Aging may soon give us more insight into the therapeutic effects of ginkgo and whether it prevents dementia.

Dosage of ginkgo biloba
A dosage of 120mg a day of ginkgo biloba broken into two or three dosages is typical.
I take it almost every day, it helps me, good luck.

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February 19, 20100 found this helpful

I have been in healthcare for almost 20 years now. Alzheimer's is my area of "specialty". I cared for my grandmother who had it. This is a truly difficult disease. Any supplementation should be reviewed by a doctor. Even though there are natural treatments and supplements out there, please know that they also have side effects. One side effect of Ginkgo is that it can "thin" the blood. This may be dangerous if a person is already taking aspirin or other blood thinners (like coumadin, etc.). The greatest benefits come when a physician and patient (or family) are all on the same page and up to date on communication.

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