I am having a housewarming celebration. My home is completely furnished with the exception of major appliances. Would it be proper to ask for money or to have a money tree for guests to place their gifts of money?
If it is correct to ask, how would this be stated on the invitation?
Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
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The only thing I think is offensive when gift giving is when someone gives you a gift, then they ask you to give a gift that is worth more than what they gave you. For example, once a girl gave me a just a birthday card for my birthday and, later that year when it was her birthday, she asked me if I could get her a gold necklace. I didn't get it for her because I had already got her a present and I thought it was very rude. To me, this was a classic case of taking more than you give.
Whilst others might find the 'wishing well' idea tacky, I actually don't mind the idea of having a wishing well at a party. Recently, I went to a wedding that had one, and the 'wishing well' actually wasn't a 'well'. It was a small 'birdcage', yet it was still called a wishing well. I'm moving into my own house next month, and I'm thinking of having a housewarming party. While I don't really need anything new and I really don't want to sound rude, if people choose to give me a gift, I would rather it be a small amount of money than anything else. What if you give someone a present that they are allergic to? Personally, I don't like the idea of giving things such as beauty packs because I am actually allergic to some of that stuff, so other people may be also. At least with money, they would have more freedom to choose. I don't usually spend more than $50 on gifts. In my new house, I can have pets, whereas in my currant one, I can't. I'm currantly saving to buy a pet at the moment, for companionship, so I would just put the money towards that.
I like the wishing well idea, and let people know ahead of time that gift cards at Home Depot, Lowes, Sears are acceptable. Alot of times people will ask what you need, and these are great for home emergencies, and can be combined as a down payment on major appliances. Don't ask for it, that is tacky I agree. But if you have a "registry", and all it has are major appliances, isn't that just as bad? I think family and friends are very forgiving, and would not be offended if you don't waste their time and money.
By Love Moore (Guest Post)11/27/2004
I think that it is appropriate to have a wishingwell housewarming if your home is already furnished. I'm doing it but it's hosted by my sister and a friend. It's probaly better if the invite is coming from someone else or use www.evite.com to send invitations. I would include this in my invitations stating that monetary gifts are prefered just like wedding receptions.
By Joan (Guest Post)01/26/2009
I have a friend that would like to give her H/warming party in Feb. she already has mostly everything already set up in her home. How does she go about asking for money? or gifts.
By BigCasino (Guest Post)06/23/2005
back in the day people used to throw "rent" parties. If it is presented in this type of way then I think it is ok. However if you present it as a house warming party then like everyone has said its not cool to ask for money.
By Holly (Guest Post)03/25/2007
I found a website that shows you how they look and you can use that to try to figure out how to make them. http://www.moneytreegift.com
By ALOHA FROM HAWAII (Guest Post)08/16/2004
I agree with it being tacky to ask your family and friends to give you gifts and money. If you've been hinting it around, they should know. If they get you gifts that you don't want, simply return them for store credit and get what you truly wanted or need. There's no need to be greedy at this point in our lives.
If someone were hosting the housewarming party for you, this would be acceptable. Unfortunately, I believe the answer to your question is no. Etiquette says one does not ask for gifts or money for oneself. Times, they are a-changing and many people may disagree with me but I still think it is tacky to invite someone to your home and ask for a gift and/or for money. I, for one, would be offended.
The only suggestion I have in this case is that perhaps you have a friend to whom you can strongly suggest you need money for major appliances and she might pass the word around.
Enjoy your party AND your new home!
By Jan (Guest Post)03/27/2006
Hey. honey, this is simply asking for money and it is strange i saw this today. a friend whom i used to work with is going to give one of her daughters a housewarming sometime in April and is planning on doing this. i emailed her back and said that was not a good idea. just my opinion though!!!
You want to hear tacky, I was invited to one (I had already bought the present) and all I asked was if you'd like me to bring a dessert or dish (potluck style) and she said no, just a gift is fine.
By Christy (Guest Post)05/11/2006
TACKY TACKY TACKY!!!!! No WAY!!! People will assume that they are to bring gifts or money. Please don't ask for it.
By jeangnome46 (Guest Post)11/04/2004
I can't think of a faster way to create enemies than to ask them for money! You would be fodder for the gossipmongers for months to come. I hope you won't do it.
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