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July 10, 2018

My cat is a black British shorthair who is five, but I've had him about 3 years. I got him from a animal shelter and he seemed very scared of humans and would lash out at people. I've been slowly getting him to be a lovely pet and since around 6 months ago he is a saint who never does anything to hurt people. I have also been gone for around six hours a day at work and also been gone for a week each year I've had him.

Normally I get my mate to feed him and stay with him for a bit so he stays comfortable. Now I had been gone around 4 and a half days looking after my mum who was a bit ill, but my mate wasn't in the country as he was on holiday.

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So I brought a 90 day cat feeder so he I didn't have to worry about food. I also put around three bowls of water and also put a bucket outside so if I had to stay longer than expected I could get a neighbor to fill it up. When I got back he seemed timid and very very scared of me. Maybe even terrified. Which is not his character at all. So anyway I caught him and just cuddled him for a bit while stroking him. Which would normally calm him down, I also let him smell my finger in case he didn't recognise me. When I got the flea treatment out then he spazzed out worse than he used to and start hissing viciously. When I did it I let go and he ran away.

I'm quite worried as I recognise my cat's way of acting and he doesn't seem like the same cat at all. The weird thing is he seemed skittish and when he used to run away almost like a jog, but this was a full sprint.

I've put in a picture of him as well.

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July 10, 20180 found this helpful

I strongly suggest a vet consult. Sudden behavior changes can be from a health condition.

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If he gets a clean bill of health, your vet can help you develope a strategy to win that sweet face back. Good luck!n let us know how it goes.

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July 10, 20180 found this helpful

I actually had a very similar thing happen to me, except it was isolated in the way that my cat would pull away from only me every now and then because I was the only one who travelled a lot and left home for long periods of time. Basically, I had to earn back her trust EVERY time. One time, it took well over 3 months. It seems to be a trust issue in your case, as well. You were there, then you were not there. You also got him from a shelter and he was scared of humans... could have been a trust issue from the start before he even knew you. You should do as you did the first time around. It's a process.

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July 10, 20180 found this helpful

I think your mates and your absence set him off. You will have to go back to square one to earn his trust and confidence that you will take care of him.

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July 11, 20180 found this helpful

He seems slightly less skittish but still doesnt really like anything to do with me

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July 11, 20181 found this helpful

Thank you for the advice, was just worried as Ive had so much progress with him and didnt want to lose it.

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July 11, 20180 found this helpful

Yeah thats what I was thinking, my mate is the only one that he really trusts other than a few other family members.

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April 29, 20131 found this helpful

I have had this cat around 1 year now. She has gotten pregnant 2 times, so she has, 4 kids. Suddenly she started hating me, whenever I want to touch her she runs away. And when I catch her, she starts hissing at me. I never did anything to make her hate me. She never comes to me and is always scared of me. But she is not acting this way with any other person, just me. Please tell me why, or what should I do to make her not hate me?

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By Jessica from Estonia

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April 30, 20130 found this helpful

She is teaching you to respect animals. I have had the same "lesson" in my experience with cats. We often think that we can touch and pick up cats and dogs and even children without "asking" them if they want that. Imagine being hauled up to a great height by a giant with your bodyweight hanging. It might hurt. Show your affection through your words and stop trying to touch her so that she can regain her trust. It might take time but then again that is your "test" for unconditional animal love.

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May 1, 20130 found this helpful

Your cat may have something on its body that hurts when she is held. It could be an abcess from a cat fight, or an ear infection or a tooth infection. It would be a good idea to take her to a Veterinarian to be checked out. While you are there you can have her neutered (spayed) so she doesnt have any more kittens.

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She will be a much healthier cat when she isnt pregnant all the time. Sometimes cats get aggressive when they are protecting their kittens. When she is spayed, she will have more time and affection for you too.

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March 19, 2011

Why does my cat all of a sudden hate me? Within the last month or two everytime I have come home from college she will not come near me. And when I try and pick her up she acts like she is scared to death and hisses at me. Why is this?

By Hayley from Overland Park, KS

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March 21, 20110 found this helpful

Most likely it's its way of showing you that it's not happy with you being gone so much.

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March 21, 20110 found this helpful

Kas1014 Just what I was going to say. Hayley, The cat is probably NOT acting afraid, but wants to get away from you, because you go away from it. You might try bringing it a catnip treat when you get home and having it in your hand when you pet, pick up or try to cuddle your cat. It is going to take some time for the cat to believe you are coming back after each time you go away.

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There are many other variables, do you have younger siblings?, does the cat get enough attention & love from the rest of the family? are there other pets? how young was it when you got it, as in imprinting on you as mother? Think on these things and I am sure your answers will come. Maybe you need to leave a pair of dirty socks where it sleeps?

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March 21, 20111 found this helpful

Maybe your cat is sick or injured in some way and it has nothing to do with you. If the cat acts this way towards others besides you, maybe you should take her to the vet.

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March 21, 20110 found this helpful

I would say see your vet and have the cat checked out. Also the cat may miss you and is just showing how it feels. Who cares for the cat while you are gone? How is the cat around other people? You may bring many smells with you on your clothing which may scare the cat. Can you leave a sweat shirt, or sweater for the cat to sleep on? Nix the dirty sox, please. How old is this kitty? Good luck to you.

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