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I am 15 yrs old and ever since I started my middle school (6th grade), I was often asked this question "Why do you have so much hair on your hands and legs?" by both male and female classmates. When I was in 7th grade I shaved my legs and my hands once without my mom's permission. So she scolded me and she said she will only allow me to shave after I am 17 or 18 yrs old, but I think that's way too long.
Now I am in 10th grade and a guy in 12th grade asked me "Why do you have so much hair on your legs?" I was really shocked and embarrassed. I didn't eat anything that day. I told my dad and he told my uncle without my permission. But when I told my mom, she was was like "You can shave" (in an angry tone). But my uncle went to my school's principal. And he and I were called in. I was shocked to see him. I actually didn't want him to get scolded as he could hold grudges and spread this incident in the whole school. And he actually did that. Although a few people know about this. Then my mom allowed me to shave my legs, but still I have a lot of hair on my hands. Many people stare at it. Indians are hairy and I asked my mom to let me shave my arms. (I was really afraid) and she was "No No No". My best friend started shaving in the 7th grade. Her mom told her that she could, but my mom is so freaking persistent. I am hairy that's why I have dense pores on my legs even after shaving.
Now Pujas (an Indian festival) is coming up and we buy clothes and wear them on this occasion. I am thinking of asking her to let me shave my hands. I need some advice regarding this. I'll be looking forward to these answers. Oh by the way my mom shaves.
Hello young lady I completely understand your dilemma and I hope my advice will help and that you'll beable to change your mother's mind you deserve to not be picked on and embarrassed and if it's something that you can change and would change things for you what's the harm. So seeing how your mom doesn't want youto shave there are other ways for hair removal have you heard of a product called nair it's a creme that you use in the shower its stinky but there isno shaving involved you put it on let it set for a minute then wipe off with a rag. You can find this product or similar ones in the same aisle as the razors . One other suggestion that may work to if that don't fly with your mom is trimming the hair with some small scissors so there's not as much... Good luck to you
Your parents may agree to you using a depilatory instead of a razor. You wont cut yourself.
I am so sorry you are going through this. You are at a tough age!! I feel for you! Almost everyone I know (and I am OLD) has gone through this as a teen...and those who have kids, have been on the flip side. Neither side is fun.
What I wish someone had told me is first of all, when you start shaving, it never ends. Never. At least not yet in my world/
That is pain....but I get it....society things it is not cool...and we all want to look and feel pretty!! I understand why my mom wanted me to wait...but that is now, many years later. Back then, NOT so much!
I wish someone had told me I was pretty no matter what....which you are...we are all beautiful because we are who we are!!! I hate that women in particular are so focused on following these society norms.
I also wish I would not have YELLED and screamed at my mom. That wasn't cool. The conversation should have been calm and clinical. Just the facts. Spoken softly and with respect.
You can tell your mom you were reading up on health issues and saw this web MD article. You can even share it with her if you feel it is helpful:
teens.webmd.com/
What concerns me is that your mom may not be aware of the bullying part of this and how THAT is hurting you.
It is important to tell you mom that you are being bullied and made fun of. That is not cool and your mom needs to help you do whatever it takes to develop the confidence to withstand the wrath of bullies.
Bullies are weak people and taking THEIR issues out on others....they need help!! You could try to kill them with kindness...but at your age, I know that is VERY hard to do.
Here is an article to help you build your confidence and stand up to bullies:
Maybe you and your mom can read that together.
I will keep you in my prayers!! Be easy on yourself!! You are beautiful and unique and awesome!!!
EMBRACE EVERYTHING THAT MAKE YOU YOU!!! INCLUDING THE HAIR :)
The important thing here is what you want in order for you to feel happy with you. All bullying and yelling aside, do you want the hair off your arms? Would that make you ultimately happy? If so, have a heart to heart with your mum. Tell her about all the happenings, all the bullying, how you feel inside. You can tell her you don't have to put a razor to the hair on your arms and hands, that there are other methods of removal like creams. She can even assist.
Bullying should not be permitted! Hair is only natural. Do you want to shave your hair? Or you are comfortable as is? You can even reference YouTube, keeping our hair is natural and it's actually a trend!
My mom and I don't have a really good relationship because she always works long hours and I don't really get a chance to talk to her. I'm 13 and in 8th grade. Basically everyone in my class is shaving and wears a bra (at least a sports bra), but I don't know how to ask her.
My legs are really hairy and I have a lot of armpit hair. My mom has brought it up a couple of times when I have casually said that I have lots of leg hair, but she just ignores it. Once though, she said that she didn't start shaving until she was in college. I can't wait until college! I really want to shave now. Even my dad and brother have brought it up to me how my legs look like boys' legs with all that hair.
Two years ago, we were shopping and I was buying a tank top with her and I told her how I didn't know if I wanted it because I had so much armpit hair. She told me I could shave it off, but she has never really gone back onto the topic. I have worn dresses before and I have purposely raised my arms to flash her my armpit hair to see if she would notice. I think she did, but she just never really brings it up.
On the topic of bras, currently, I am only wearing camis with like the training bras attached to them in the inside, but my mom won't upgrade me into an actual training bra. I just don't know how to bring it up. She doesn't wear sports bras and she doesn't own them either so I have a feeling she doesn't really know what they are or just never used them. All of my friends wear them and I really want one and I think I am ready for one.
How should I approach her about these? Lots of people say to just confront her, but when the time comes close, I just back out.
Tell her you need to talk to her about something important and have her set a time when she won't be working, like an appointment. then you can't just back out.
If making a time to talk with her is not possible, you can consider writing a note to her describing your specific concerns. Ask for her help to start shaving and going to a store for a bra-fitting.
Good Luck!!!
And if your mother doesn't come through (it happens), ask your best friend's mom? Or an aunt?
How's your relationship with your dad? Maybe you could ask him? Or maybe Mom is more comfortable with it than you expect she'll be. Just ask. As a mom myself, I left stuff like that up to my son, knowing that when he was ready, he'd ask. I agree with the other person that answered who said maybe you could leave her a note. Be strong, sweetie. Let her know how embarrassed you are because other girls your age are already shaving and wearing bras. I guarantee you she doesn't want you to feel bad about yourself. Hang in there!
Just talk to her alone or without any distractions tell her you need a bra you need to shave. I am scared to tell my mom I need to shave and I am not even a teen. I don't reply know about the bra I was in 2nd grade and she told me.
Okay so I'm Indian so I have super dark long hair everywhere, on my arms, legs, armpits, face and basically just everywhere. I have started trimming my hair slightly using scissors, but its so tedious and I never get an even natural look.
I have got my armpits waxed for my formal (I live in Australia so basically a mini prom) because my dress exposed them and yeah, but it's been a year since that and my hair is getting out of control. I'm the only girl in my family other than my mum and I'm super awkward about these topics to my mum.
I have used my brothers' razors to get rid of hair and sometimes I steal my mum's tweezers to pluck my eyebrows. I'm 13, but I have even longer hair that my older brother who is 17. I'm so ashamed because all my friends have fine light hair whereas I don't. My school has uniforms which are skirts so everyday I expose my hairy legs and I hate it. I wish I could shave, but I don't know how to confront my mum. I'm kinda hoping she realises, but even after I showed how long my leg hair is she didn't care. But my mum is always plucking, shaving, or waxing it's not fair! Any tips to make her realise that I need to start shaving or at least using Nair just any way to get rid of my gross hair.
I want to shave. I'm 14, my legs are hairy, and I'm an athlete. I don't think it looks nice if a girl has hair on her legs. I do! I asked my mom if I can shave my legs and she said no. The reason is because when she was my age she also had hair on her legs, she didn't shave because I think that her mom didn't let her. So I went and asked my dad if I can shave it and he said yes. Yes, No, which is it?
I'm turning 14 very soon, I don't shave anything. My friends talk about it all the time and I just avoid the question. I am so awkward with things like this between me and my mom.
It's a month before summer and I want to start shaving before then. Should I ask her via text? Or would that be even more weird?I'm 15 years old and I'm so hairy because I'm a guy. I feel like asking my parents would be awkward. So should I ask them or just go for it and buy a razor?
I'm turning 13 in a couple of months and am in the 7th grade. In school all my friends are making fun of my legs and they're very hairy. I get embarrassed in school about it. I mentioned to my mom that my legs are hairy, but she just ignores me.
My brother tells me too that they are hairy and I should ask my mom to let me shave, but I just don't know the way to ask her. Any advice?I'm 13 and I have really hairy armpits and legs. Everybody else shaves, and I really really want to as well. I freaked out and started shaving without my mum knowing. So far it hasn't caused any problems, but I have to use my mum's razor, and I know she'll find out soon. I really want to ask her to let me shave, so I can learn properly and get my own stuff.
But I'm really embarrassed and scared to talk to her about it. You see, I have a lot of anxiety and find it scary to ask my mum this. Should I just shave without her knowing? Or does anyone have tips on how to get her to ask me somehow? And there is no way that I'll be able to ask her.To me it seems like you might have a good relationship with your mother. You seem to consider talking to her about you're very private personal body hygene. That is great and already very mature.
When i was your age, i did not talk to my mother about that and it took me a few mistakes to regret.
I think if you feel comfortable talking about it with her, then do it. If you have doubts, then maybe it helps, talking about shaving with someone else first, maybe you have an aunt or a older cousin you like to talk to? Maybe after talking to them, they can help you to talk to your mom.
Last but not least, there are a lot of young women who start to accept their bodies also with their body hair. Because shaving is something you don't have to do. Check out www.instagram.com/
Ask your mother if you can use a depilatory instead of a razor. She may say yes to that. My mother did.
I want to shave my legs because they are really hairy and you can tell because the hair is thick and black. My sister said she would help me, but I don't know how to ask her.
My mom has noticed my leg hair, but idk?I'm a 13 year old girl. My mom won't let me shave at 13 when she was allowed to at 13. It's really embarrassing having hairy legs. I have golden blonde hair so my legs are pretty noticeable because they shine. All the other girls wears skirts and shorts because they can shave so they can wear that stuff without being self-conscious and embarrassed. I see their legs and it's embarrassing and I'm self-conscious about it.
My mom also knows I am and I have asked her before and she doesn't care how embarrassed or self-conscious I am about it. It's summer and I hate the summer because I don't like shorts. I only wear shorts in my room because if I wear them by her she looks at my legs and tells me how hairy my legs are. So does my dad when I go to his house. But my mom is the one who won't let me shave my legs so it's not my fault they are hairy. Sorry for how long the backstory or whatever took so long or so much reading.
I am the second oldest out of 6 kids. My older sister has shaved her legs, but I don't know if she asked or if my mom offered, but we don't talk about puberty because she is judgmental. My mom almost has no time to talk one on one with me. I'm considering writing a letter, but idk. Help me. Idk if I have to ask my mom or if she is going to offer it.
I've been going through "puberty" (I'm 15 years old) and am growing some serious armpit hair! It's starting to get extremely hot where I live and many kids at my school are wearing tank tops! I'm also a part of a dance group and the dress code there forces me to show my dark, hairy, full, sweaty, smelly, and gross hair!
(Um ew) Ever since it started to grow (2 years ago) I've been trying to ask my mom to help me, but that's so awkward. I don't think I can do it! I really don't feel like asking my mom. What should I do? Should I talk to her? (I'm also having a performance in my armpit hair showing outfit in a few weeks sooooo) Please help!I'm 13 and I was wondering if I should ask my mom if I could start shaving because I just feel embarrassed to show my legs in school or outside of school. I really need help on this because my mom doesn't shave and last time I asked her and she ended up saying no which made me mad and angry because every girl at school shaves except for me. Please help!
A good way to ask your mom about shaving is to simply write her a note asking for her help to learn how to shave your legs. You can explain that you are embarrassed and would like to start shaving now.
Good Luck!
Another thing you can do is enlist the help of an aunt or older cousin who does shave her legs. They might help you broach the subject to your mom.
Don't be mad at your mom because first of all, it will be ten times harder to ask her again and second of all, she probably doesn't want you to grow up quite yet, or she thinks that you just want to impress boys. Tell your mom exactly why you want to shave. If she still says no, don't get upset, just ask her why
I'm 13 and my legs and armpits are getting really hairy. The hair is dark, so it's really noticeable. All my friends shave, even a couple who don't look like they've hit puberty.
I'm not at all scared to shave, but I'm worried about asking my mom about it. Does she expect me to ask her, or is she waiting to talk to me about it?Your mother may not realize you are concerned about your need to start shaving. You are concerned about your hair growth so you should discuss this with your mother.
If for some reason you are shy to talk to your mother about this, perhaps you have an aunt or a cousin or an older sister with whom you feel more at ease who could help you talk to mom about shaving.
When I was in fifth grade everyone was already shaving they're legs. I thought this was a little ridiculous and started in sixth grade at twelve years old without my mothers permission. I wouldn't recommend it. When she did find out, when we were at the doctors office getting my hurt knee x rayed, she didn't seem to happy, plus it was awkward. I would recommend asking first.
I am 12 almost 13 and in 7th grade. All of my friends have started shaving their legs and arms. I have extremely hairy legs. I always wear leggings to hide it.
Most girls wear shorts and have no hair. I'm scared to ask my mom. She started shaving when she was in her early 20s. Any advice would be awesome.I am 13 and I have been wanting to shave my legs for years now. I have brought it up a few time to my sisters, my dad, and my mom. When I talked to my mom about it she told me what dad had said to her. I explained my situation and I haven't talked to her about it since.
I'm sitting next to both of my parents now and I really want to ask them about it, but I am too shy to. We are leaving for the beach in two days and will be there for a week. I don't want to be hiding in our condo the whole trip.
How do I ask my parents?
How do I ask my mum to shave as I am almost 13, but I am very tall for my age. Now my legs have become quite hairy and it is embarrassing at school as I am into a lot of sports, but I wear a tracksuit to hide my hairy legs.
Me and my mum don't get along well and I'm to scared to ask her. What should I say to her?I'm a girl 14 years old. I know a lot of girls don't have a moustache, but I do because I'm too hairy. The boys start to tell me that you have a moustache and I don't like it, it's too embarrassing so I decided to tell my mum. I know that she will let me, but I'm too scared to ask her. I'm just so nervous cause I think it's so embarrassing. I say to my self, tomorrow no tomorrow and then I say I'm not ready. I tried it once, but I was too shy. I said, "I want to tell you something, you know what nothing". I don't know why I'm too shy and nervous and think that it's embarrassing.
However my relationship with my mum it's so good. I tell her everything and anything and I'm always talking with her, but I don't know why I can't tell her small stuff like this. I stay all the day thinking about it and I know it's something so normal and simple, but I can't; something stops me!
Please help me :(
I am going to be in 9th grade soon and my arms and legs are really hairy. I really want to shave my legs, but my Mom says no.
I know that I shouldn't be embarrassed about my body, but I just really want to feel confident.
I'm not confident enough to wear shorts, skirts, and dresses because people stare at my legs (and sometimes my arms).
How should I break it off to my Mom? And should I really shave?
Your mom should really understand your situation, especially the insecurity this is causing you.
There is nothing wrong with not shaving, shaving as it is a personal choice - but you should tell your mom how you truly feel.
Does she shave her arms and legs?
With my mom, I told her that my arm pits are embarrassing me, After some time she came home with a razor for me and showed me how to shave my arm pits. I was always very Insecure because of my hairy legs, My friends where shaving and I was embarrassed. So I asked my mom, She said "No, Don't Push It", I felt like I didn't have a good chance of asking her again. I had researched about shaving for quite some time, so one night, before I was going to take a shower. I went to her, whispered in her ear (Because there was a guest) that I'm shaving my legs right now. She didn't mention it after... And there are other ways to remove leg hair, you should just do research,
