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I'm 17 and my mother has been collecting my benefits from my dad and doesn't buy me anything. She pays my phone bill and that's all. My question is if I would order stuff I need on-line for myself and my kids will I get in trouble?
The money you get is for your needs. Needs include rent, clothing and food. Who is paying for this? Your mother may be using the money for that. If she is truly not meeting your needs, you could notify Social Security. She could be called in and be required to submit receipts for items she purchased on your behalf. I would not order online yet until this is settled.
You say you are 17? Are you still in high school? Are you married? Who supports your kids? Who do you live with and who pays the bills (rent, electric, heat, water, garbage, etc.)? Who supplies food for you and your kids? Do you have a car? If so, who pays for that expense? There are many everyday expenses (clothes, shoes, cosmetics, toothpaste, toilet paper, etc) that most people tend to forget - and all cost money.
I can sympathize with how you feel but have you talked to your grandmother about this problem? How does your grandmother feel about all of this? Are you saying that your grandmother fully supports you and your children? Again, I have to ask a question - where does the children's father come into paying support for you and his children? I'm only asking because if this is Social Security benefits then all money will stop when you reach 18 years old (unless you are still in high school full time) and who will support you after this?
So my cousin has been getting Social Security survivor benefits ever since his father passed away. He now lives in a really rough situation that he is trying to remove himself from. He is in the process of emancipating himself. If the judge rules in his favor will he lose those benefits? He is 16 y/o and is still a full time high school student.
He should be able to receive benefits up to the age of 19 as long as he is still in high school full time
Your cousin is going to need a strong support system and have questions answered by people from the sources, not crowd sourcing.
The Social Security Administration number is at the bottom of this link. He or his lawyer needs to call them:
If he needs legal aide, talk to your state senator and have him or her give you a list of legitimate legal aide services ASAP. Never find legal aide from the internet as most are scams.
Does the school your cousin go to have a guidance counselor he can have on his side?
Sending up prayers for him to get his situation resolved and with the best support system. Post back how things are going.
Most likely the judge will only rule in his favor if he has a very good support system that can supply testimony/evidence that his situation is as he states as 16 is a very young age to say you can support yourself and still go to school full time.
He will need to identify where he will be living and whoever he will be living with will have to be acceptable to the judge.
He should be qualified to receive SS benefits (as long as he is a full time student and the school will send reports to SS) until he graduates from high school or he reaches 19 years of age - whichever comes first.
If the judge approves his application then he/she will give him paperwork to present to SSA to have the benefit check sent to whatever address the papers state.
This is not an easy "one-two-three" process and usually takes several months to complete as most people do not have all the paperwork they need.
That is why he will need a good attorney who is familiar with this process and has your cousin get all his required paperwork together before a court date.
Hopefully everything will work out for the best as it is sad to hear that a 16 year old has to go through something like this.
My daughter is 16 1/2 and her mom just passed away a week ago. She is staying at house with her mom's fiancé. I am the father he is not, she wants to stay there rather than move in with me.
These are questions for social security. If her mother worked long enough and made enough she would be eligible for survivor benefits.
I would consult a lawyer about her emancipation and where she should be living. If you cant afford a lawyer contact the Legal Aid Society.
You have my sympathy on the loss of your daughter's mom. Very sad.
This can be very complicated so I suggest starting with the social security administration:
I would also try to develop a good relationship with the mom's fiance so you both have your daughters interests protected and that if she is due any money, that it is used wisely and is protected.
You may also want to have a good lawyer on your side.
Your state senator can help you work though some of the government red tape. Their services should be free. I found mine by Googling my town, and the phrase state senator.
Prayers for all!!
This is a sad situation but may I ask if you have ever had very much interaction with your daughter since your divorce? If not, could this be one of the reasons she prefers to stay with her mother's boyfriend?
This may not be a situation that will find favor with attorneys or a judge (but then, I do not know about the living conditions of either party).
I have an 18 year old nephew in-law whose father passed away 3 yrs ago. His biological step brother and sister-in-law went to court and my sister received guardianship. My brother-in-law was very sick and could not retain guardianship. He has passed on. The nephew is now 18, but still has a year of high school left. Funds where cut off in June. Social Security says they can start back when proof is shown he is enrolled in school for 13 weeks. The check comes in his name and it's deposited in his account. Then certain bills for his personal care are taken from his check. Then the remaining funds are left for him. He is now trying to move out of the house because he is 18 years old and thinks the check should go to him. Would this be legal in the state of Texas? The check is for the guardian to take care of him. Correct?
He can get the checks if he is in high school up to 19. Usually his guardian gets the check. Social Security makes the decisions who gets the check
Questions about Social Security benefits are difficult to answer because every case is different and of course, we do not know all of the facts about the situation.
All matters dealing with Social Security benefits should be discussed with a representative at your local office so everyone knows they have the right answer for their particular case.
Social Security is very complex. I would contact the Social Security administration directly to get any questions answered, as they are the experts. Their contact info is at this link:
They are the experts and can give you the true information for your situation. If you have trouble understanding what they are telling you or need further assistance, I recommend asking your state senator help. I found mine by googling my town and the words state senator. His staff was very helpful and has helped us resolve several situations. The services are free (well...paid for by tax money).
Any time there is money and the government invoked, I go right to the experts!!
Good luck and blessings to your family!
I'm about to turn 18 and I'm still in high school as a full time student. Social Security is going to start sending my money to me instead of to my mom. Is she able to have my money stopped completely if she wanted to even though it's not going to her anymore?
I am assuming these are survivor benefits. You are entitled to them as long as you are in high school, up to age 19. Your mother, if she saw you were not spending the money on your needs, could go to social security and request that it be sent to her. Social Security has the right for an accounting on how the money was spent.
It is important for you to understand how your benefit works and talk to the experts at the Social Security Administration to get the answers you need.
Once you have the answers, you and your mom and come to an agreement on the best way to manage your money. By taking the lead and making the call (or going to their website) you will be showing your mom you are responsible, which she (hopefully) will appreciate and will make for adult discussion.
The contact info and a PDF about benefits are below:
Wishing you all the best!!
Since we do not know the reason the benefit was changed to you instead of to your parent/guardian we cannot answer your question. You should be asking your questions at your local SSA in the same manner you requested the benefit be changed to your name.
My niece is 17, going on 18, in 2019. She will be a senior so I believe she qualifies for survivors' benefits until the end of high school. My brother died on 7/17, she lived with her mother who was not a next of kin for my brother or spouse/relationship. She has 6 kids of her own. My niece now lives with me and the first check she saw is for July. Her mother never gave her or set aside any money for the last year. How much control does she have over the money, and does she get survivors benefit just for being the parent? I am trying to figure out where all this money went.
The girls mother got that check to cover expenses for her. If you believe there has been wrongdoing, contact Social Security. The mother will have to show proof that the money went for the girls expenses
Sorry to hear you are having so many challenges. Will send up lots of prayers for you and your family!
Talk to the Social Security Administration and ask for help. Their contact info is here:
If they are not helpful or you need more help cutting through the red tape or figuring out what they are telling you, talk to your state senator. Go in person! If yours is like mine, they are amazing!
I found ours by putting in Google search my town name and the phrase state senator. His name came right up. Their services are free paid for by our tax dollars, so may this can help you!!
If you need low cost Legal Aid, since this situation sounds quite complicated, the State Senator can help with that also. Never pick a legal aid company from a Google search as many are not what they seem.
Your question is a little confusing but basically you just want to know where all the money from 7/17 until 7/18 went?
When I fill out all the information to continue getting a survivor's check in high school, does the person from my high school that signs off that I go to school for 8 hours have to check my grades as well? Or are they just checking that I have the right amount of hours while attending school?
You need to prove that you are doing to high school full-time. That is why your hours are being checked. You are entitled to that money as long as you are a full-time student under 19. Your grades do not affect your payment